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Looking for help for sister

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littlemissangrypants · 03/01/2013 16:20

My sister is a single mother of a 1 year old child. Her partner just recently left her. She is an EU national. She has tried to apply for benfits and has been told she will have to go on Jobseekers and work. They are also making her prove that she is entitled to stay in the Uk and that she has ties to this country. She has lived here since 2004.
They are messing her around with processing her claim and she has only had child benefit and tax credits for the last 6 weeks. Today the job centre finally started processing her claim. She has been told that she will not have the claim back dated. Also she has now been told that her claim will have to be sent to scotland to be dealt with. They said on the phone that she will have to wait a few weeks to find out if they will pay.
Meanwhile she is not getting housing benefit due to job centre refusal to stamp claim for housing benefits. Her landlady is threatening to evict her.
My sister is very worried about being made homeless and the possibility of losing her dc. The job centre have told her they are unable to help.
How can I support her and where can i find help for this?
Any help would be much appreciated

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RedHelenB · 03/01/2013 16:23

Shelter CAB

CogitoErgoSometimes · 03/01/2013 16:26

Could you call round the rest of your family, get them to chip in and send her some cash until the claim comes through?

littlemissangrypants · 03/01/2013 16:30

Our parents are dead. We are living in UK and the rest of family we have left is in another EU country. I work a minimum wage job and only part time. I have already bought her food twice and spent £200 on it which was a huge struggle for me. I am trying my best to support her but financially it's very hard for me. I am struggling on under £1000 a month for three people. I really do wish i could help more but I have two children to consider, one of whom has special needs

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 03/01/2013 17:48

Then she needs to keep talking to the Job Centre and making a nuisance of herself rather than waiting. There must be more financial help available for her than waiting weeks for JSA. She has to be very clear that she's in genuine hardship and keep pressing that point. At the same time she should talk to the landlord and let them know what's going on ... IME people are more accommodating if they're in the loop

Oodhousekeeping · 03/01/2013 17:59

Speak to CAB & job centre about food banks too. Or HV may refer?

littlemissangrypants · 03/01/2013 18:10

She is one of lives avoiders. Meanwhile i have given her links for everything and hope she sorts something out. She only got her claim started today because I dragged her down to the jobcentre. She is only 4 years younger than me but still expects everyone to look after her.
I really dont know how much longer i can play mum to her. It's affecting my health now. Thanks for the replies btw. I have even found a local food bank.
I think that I will end up doing what I normally do which is pay and leave myself short so she wont have to grow up. I can't force her to do things for herself. I'm just so sick off it

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 03/01/2013 22:19

Don't leave yourself short in that case because all the time you keep rescuing her, she has no incentive to take responsibility for herself and her child. You'll end up sick and she'll never learn to take care of herself. Sometimes you have to be hard with people to be kind. Give her encouragement but make her do the work this time

financialwizard · 04/01/2013 18:52

I agree with Cogito time for tough love.

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