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If someone wants to keep their name when they marry?

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NotActuallyAMum · 30/03/2006 10:28

At the risk of looking really thick here

A friend of mine is getting married but wants to keep her name, by that I mean she still wants to be Miss Name Surname - the name that she's had since the day she was born. She seems to think there are reasons why she can't do this but I thought people did this all the time? Also, does she have to let anyone know that she has got married (bank, car insurance people etc.)?

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tracyk · 30/03/2006 10:30

I still use mine - but usually say Mrs Name Surname rather than Miss. Don't think there's any probs with it.

WideWebWitch · 30/03/2006 10:34

She doesn't have to change her name and she doesn't have to do anything to not change her name. I've been married twice (still am, second time!) and still have the name I was born with, always have had this name and always will. She doesn't have to let anyone know she's married but she should think about her will and children as marriage will affect these. Wrt name though, no, she doesn;t need to do anything, jsut carry on as normal .

frogs · 30/03/2006 10:35

I have my own name, for professional reasons, and also because it's mine, and I don't see why I should become someone else. And anyway, Mrs Dhname is my MIL, and I have NO desire to have the same name as her. It's never been a problem, though you'd be surprised at the number of people who feel they need to comment on it, specially once you have children.

If you marry you need to have a new will drawn up, as existing one becomes invalid on marriage. It may affect certain insurance policies, too, so worth letting them know.

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NotActuallyAMum · 30/03/2006 10:39

Thanks folks

I thought this was the case but just wanted to check for her. She has said the same as frogs - doesn't want to be Mrs X because that's her MIL

They don't plan on having children but I'll mention about Will/insurance policies to her

Thanks again

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chipkid · 30/03/2006 10:58

I have kept my maiden name for work. But I use my married name in my private life-so I have a dual identity I suppose!
Passport and current account, driving licence and investments in maiden name-joint account, car insurance other investments in married name!
can get confusing!

NotQuiteCockney · 30/03/2006 11:06

Changing it all over to your married name sounds like a real hassle.

I also use my "maiden" name for everything. I'm not Mrs HisName, as that's my MIL.

From what I know, you can switch to using a married name whenever you like. 20 years down the line, I could go insane and decide to be Mrs HisName, and change everything over, no problem. Just need to provide a marriage certificate etc, and it's sorted.

tracyk · 30/03/2006 11:26

Its easy enough to change to Mrs Dhname - but just try and change back to your maiden name - it's a blooming nightmare! Some companies insist on seeing the divorce papers - so you have to stay Mrs DHname till then - sometimes years down the line!

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 11:48

Chipkid, just wondered - how can your driving licence and your car insurance be in different names?

slartibartfast · 30/03/2006 12:03

you don't have to show a driving licence to car insurers

pinkmagic1 · 30/03/2006 12:05

Kept my maiden name but tend to use Mrs over Miss.

spacecadet · 30/03/2006 12:07

theres nmo law that says you have to change your name when you marry.
i kept my drivers license in my maiden name as it was such a palava to change it, checked with the dvla and they said that was fine although im known as mrs***, my license says miss maiden name, i just signed my married name on the bit that said also known as.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 12:16

Thats intersting. Law is a strange thing sometimes! I know you dont have to show your liscence to car insurers. Just a bit odd thats all;
Driving liscence - Miss. Smith
Car insurance - Mrs. Jones

Could cause a lot of confusion IMO.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 12:18

Think I must be the old fashioned type, I took my Dh name. Didnt realise it was as common to keep your maiden name.

chipkid · 30/03/2006 12:42

mumfor1-you are right it is confusing!
The reason drivers licence is different to car insurance is that I did not use my married name AT ALL until the children came along-since I started using married name bought a car in that name so insurance in married name also. Just haven't got round to changing my driving licence or passport although I should do really!

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 12:59

I thought you could get fined if you didnt change your details with dvla (if you take married name). Think the fine is upto £1000.
I did marry nearly 4 yrs ago so maybe the law is different. Cant see on the website though.

dvla site\link{http//www.dvla.gov.uk/faq/faq_replacement_licences.htm\here}

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 13:02

or even \link{http://dvla.gov.uk/welcome.htm\here}

mumfor1standfinaltime · 30/03/2006 13:06

read this\link{http://www.ukdps.co.uk/AwomansRightUponMarriage.html\too}

NannyL · 30/03/2006 20:16

My boss is Mrs name maidenname as well.

wanted ehr maiden name due to associations with her family buisness that she works for

the children have the fathers surname

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