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THIS IS A REMINDER TO ALL THOSE WHO HAVE NOT MADE A_________WILL_________ YET

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RTKangaMummy · 20/03/2006 21:13

PLEASE DO IT ASAP

TIA

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Hulababy · 22/03/2006 22:41

DH says really the Tenants in Common is just a really small part of it all and there is much more to look at. You need to chat to your solicitor about all the ins and outs. But there are very definite ways to avoid IHT, with good plannd and all perfectly legal :)

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RTKangaMummy · 22/03/2006 22:42

deffo brill

Thank you HB DH Smile

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julienetmum · 22/03/2006 22:48

There are no neutral alternatives to parents. One thing we are bpth absolutely agreed on is that NO WAY will dh's sister and her husband or my brother and his wife have the children.

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RTKangaMummy · 22/03/2006 22:56

we feel the same about my sister having DS -- no way

so my cousins are his guadians and we are going to ask another cousin to be in reserve iyswim

What about friends??????

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RTKangaMummy · 22/03/2006 22:57

perhaps you do need to do a will and put you deffo don't want them to have them

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gibberish · 22/03/2006 23:02

Thanks for the reminder. Must, must do this.

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RTKangaMummy · 22/03/2006 23:13

You're welcome Smile

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tribpot · 23/03/2006 12:35

Would it be practical for the parents to share the care, or do they live miles apart?

julienetmum · 23/03/2006 13:30

We don't have friends who are close enough for us to want to give them the responsibility.

Both sets of grandparents are totally devoted and do a fair amount of cildminding for us. Dd and ds adores them both.

Ok, I hope this doesn;t sound too snobby but here goes.

My parents are pretty wealthy, live in a 5 bed house with swimming pool, run own business etc. Dh's parents live in a 2 up 2 down terrace that is always a tip. Mil retired, fil in a decent but not earth shattering job. My parents are also a lot younger (early 50's) dh's parents are early 60's.

I feel that my parents would be more suited finacially and circumstancially, however there is a feeling in the family that the man's parents shoudltake priority.

They all get on well together and live 10 mins away from each other.

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RTKangaMummy · 23/03/2006 13:39

So if they share them now can't they share them in the future?

If you make a will and put in which schools you want for children and put in the big decisions so they can't argue with your choice

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NotActuallyAMum · 24/03/2006 09:55

Oh yes, blimey we really should do this. We're not married and DP has a child (and a cow of an ex-wife!) whereas I don't have any children...

Surfermum · 24/03/2006 10:05

We did ours on Weds. Had a specialist will person round to do it and I'm glad we did. There are all sorts of pitfalls that we would never have known about.

Hulababy · 24/03/2006 18:02

NAAM - you definitely need one!!!

NotActuallyAMum · 28/03/2006 10:28

Yes I know Hulababy - we really must get it done

Does anyone know if there's any way of us avoiding having to re-do it if we ever decided to get married?

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