Help!

[rockandahardplace2012]

Hi Ladies,
I am currently living alone with my dd in a flat, i'm planning to move back in with my dp in october. I have a temporary job which I have to leave at the end of september unfortunately. We are looking to move in the next 12-18 months we will be looking for 3 bedrooms with a garden so looking at least £500- £550 a month rent, my dp wont be able to afford this on his own so i will be hoping to put some towards this. The only thing is if i get a part time job as i have a dd i will be on about £350-£400 a month and if i put say £200 a month to the rent I wouldnt really have enought for the rest of the month. Sorry for spouting what sounds like rubbish but i could do with some advice!
[Blush] Thanks for reading

'Back in' suggests you've tried living together before and it didn't work out? If you're sure this is what you want to do, you and DP need to work out together what your combined income (or potential income) is, including things like tax credits etc., and then work out what is a reasonable budget for shared accommodation, living costs and other expenses. Plan carefully, be realistic and include a bit of 'spare' for emergencies and one-off expenses. If the numbers don't add up you might have to revise your expectations.

Yes we lived together when i was pregnant with dd and up until she was 6 months old, no we needed time apart. Its been great for us I think its made my dp appreciate what he had a little bit more, as that was the problem. Ye I think we will have to have a look at our finances and our plan of attack thanks

When organising your finances, keep a little by in a personal account. I don't want to be a doom-monger but IME people don't change much and, if you've had problems in the past, you may find he slips back into old behaviour patterns once you're back under the same roof. So try not to put yourself in a situation where you are 100% reliant on him financially as a precaution.

I understand cogito yes I've got my own account can i just ask what IME stands for sorry if im being thick lol

In My Experience :)

Right thanks I know we've got a long way to go but I hope we can do it fingers crossed