Hi
I'm looking for a little advice please, I'm a guy so not sure if it's strange for a guy to ask mums net for advice
I am getting divorced from my wife we were married for 12 years and have 2 children 8 and 10
I was always hoping to settle our finances between us and then get the agreement drawn up legally
I bring home £3700 per month nett
I have offered to pay £750 child maintenance and also on top pay another £600 spousal support
My ex then gets £800 tax credits. £130 child benefit and approx £400 in wages
I have offered to pay the £600 for approx 15yrs until the mortgage is paid of at which point she can stay in the home until she dies if she wishes rent and mortgage free or if she wants to sell then it is split 70% for her and 30% to me
The only other way the spousal maintenance stops is if she remarries or cohabits as man and wife for 6 months
Now this is where I need advice she does not want the cohabit for 6 months in there and wants me to have to go back to court to ask for a variance which I have heard is hugely expensive
Any advice on the 6 month cohabitation bit and how I would stand in court
Thanks you