Please talk to me about the fuzzy part of making a will/wishes for guardians? (mumblechum, maybe?)

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So we don't actually need someone to help with the will forms itself - have the standard mirror forms waiting to be filled in from our solicitor.

We have chosen guardians and they know.

But wondering what wishes we should put (and how reasonable they are) about the more FUZZY and where even to start
e.g I would like DS to do sport, and languages and to be encouraged to travel before continuing with studies

Am sure there are more but wondering where one starts with this and obv they dont have any legal standpoints but wonder if it's worth noting down.

Obv I want him to be HAPPY first and foremost but I suppose the point of having a will is to leave everything as much in order as possible for children who have lost parents and I am trying to think of things that may be useful

Or is this all too much detail?

TIA for any thoughts

Bump?

Could you not have a journal type book that you write these things down in for your dc's directly? as if you and their father are talking to them about the dreams you see for them. You could maybe re write it every year or so to work in line with the childrens ages. Also would make a lovely thing for your Dc's to keep should the worst happen.

Well - if the worst happens and your dc are left motherless then yes they would cherish your aspirations for them BUT what if they are rubbish at sport? What if they can't wait to get to university and study anglo-saxon, what if they want with all their heart to be a jockey or a welder or a nanny or a solicitor? I think it's best to talk to the guardians about your general feelings and then trust them to guide your dcs to follow their inclinations and their own dreams not yours.

northernlurker - yes good point - don't want to suggest that they follow my dreams though at being rubbish at sport.

and solo good idea about making it a journal
Maybe am being morbid but just thought it might be better to get it d (not least cos their appointed guardian has a large family already but also similar general outlook parenting-wise to DH and me)

I don't think that needs to be in the will. It should be somewhere else for example in a journal they can read. I would suggest 'Things I would like my daughters to know' as a good read and give you ideas of how to do this. Blogs also work too.

wrong thread. Sorry

I have been thinking about leaving a letter for my SIL who is appointed guardian in our wills about things like that. Then I can update it every year. I will just tell her there is a letter and roughly where. (With other important documents etc)