I am being childish but I can't seem to stop myself

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Please help me get some perspective!

8 years ago my mother died. Out of no where my brother got in touch via a Solicitor to make a claim on my mother's will - Legal Rights as it is called in Scotland (not sure about England).

My mother excluded him from her will and made comment to him and her feelings (not great) in her letter of wishes. No need to explain the fall out other than my brother lived with my father at the time and both were not nice people to know/be around.

My brother found out about my mother dying through someone who my mum thought of as a close friend and who could be trusted. My mother was a few days from death when the letter stating he was claiming his legal rights appeared at her home - she was still alive

In the end my brother's legal claim on my mother's estate meant he got a significant payout. While I fully respect the law, it still does bug the hell out of me that he got something my mum made it known specifically that he wasn't to get. Please be assured that I am not greedy in the slightest and not looking at this financially. I'd do anything to have my mum back. They money is not an issue but the hurt and distress that he caused at the time was consuming for both my mother and other family members.

So, roll forward to now. My father has died and when I heard I spoke to my boss who is a Solicitor and he agreed to send a letter claiming my legal rights on my father's estate.

I have not seen nor have I heard from this piece of shit in 25 years but I couldn't stop myself. I wanted my brother to know how it felt. I can stop this and I often say to myself when I stress about it at 3 am that I wilk speak to my boss in the morning and tell him to stop but the next days comes and I think to hell - I want him to feel how we felt 8 years ago.

I knw I am being so childish. I am not even sure why I am posting this. I suppose to get this out and down on paper.

If I did receive anything from his estate it would either be for my DCs and put into a bank account or sent to my brother's ex-wife for her children.

I am sorry for such a long message. I am a regular BTW and have just done a quick name change.

I would do the same if I were you.

i think i would do the same in your shoes

Agree with Eeyore, I'd do the same.

Why was he able to contest her will?? I would do the same and quickly

Do you know that you've been excluded from your father's will though?

You're absolutely right to do this in this situation. Don't back down - take it all the way.

You owe it to your mother, your children and yourself.

And to be able to say yah boo sucks to you to your brother!

Not childish - completely understandable.

I'd carry on as you are.

No, it's not childish, so it.

If he was able to contest a will when it was made clear that your mum did not want him to have anything, then you have every right to do the same regarding your father.

It's not childish, I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope at some point the pain will ease for you.

you are not childish at all - you absolutely have right on your side
its called Karma!
good luck and I hope you get what you are entitled to under the law

the law was WRONG in finding in favour of your brother 8 years ago, ruling against your mums clear wishes, but now you have right on your side in doing the same