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How do I sort this mess out?

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ashamed2011 · 21/03/2011 16:03

Very long story but basically I am bi-polar and was sectioned for a short while last year. Before I did this I used my dads name and details to obtain credit of £2000. I was making the pyments fine until the section, then crap after crap happened, I lost my job and it became impossible.

I recently feel ok and recovered, and I was starting to write to the companies saying what had happened and confessing what I did, and asking them to change the account to my name. They wouldn't, so I also confessed to my dad and got a letter from him stating what had happened and that he didn't want to press charges, just get these accounts in my name instead so I can arrange a payment plan (it was fine making payments in my own name before they got passed to debt collection but now its more difficult)

Today I got a text from my dad to say his credit card limit has been reduced because of what I did and that he had spoken to one company who said they were putting it through their fraud department.

Of course I don't blame him, I accept that it's my fault and I accept the consequences of whatever I have to do or go through to sort this out

I just wondered if anyone knows what will happen? Will the police be involved? He still doesn't want to press charges, but will he have to in order to get what are basically my debts taken off his credit record?

Like I say if so I accept the consequences and will do whatever necessary to pay it back and do my time. I just want some idea of what will happen and if this is able to be sorted at all without police?

I am utterly ashamed of myself but I want to put this right.

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Chil1234 · 21/03/2011 19:59

You may benefit from talking the problems through, you and your father together, with advisors such as the CAB in the first instance. Or a solicitor, if you can afford it.

The CC company has to run a fraud investigation because their card was misused. It's pretty standard and probably not something your father had any control over. Whether they press charges may depend more on their internal policies than on the wishes of the cardholder. Good luck

jaabaar · 01/04/2011 00:20

I just wanted to wish you luck. I admire your courage and comitment to set things right.

timetosmile · 01/04/2011 00:29

Did you apply for your 'Dad's' credit while you were unwell (?manic episode) prior to being sectioned?

If so, you may be able to get your psychiatrist to write a letter of support confirming your probable mental state at the time.

I think that banks are sometimes willing to either write off debts run up because of major mental illness,or else at least look more sympathetically at the situation if that was the case.

Have you thought about contacting MIND or one of the other major mental health charities for advice?

Good luck and I hope it all works out well for you

bemybebe · 01/04/2011 17:59

Just wanted to wish you good luck in resolving these issues and also strength not to do it again!

GypsyMoth · 01/04/2011 18:07

my ex husband did this to me....£1000,but the police didnt prosecute as credit card company wouldnt pursue it for such a small amount.....cos them too much. it was capital one if that helps?

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