if you got yurself in a finicial mess, would you expect your parents to help out?

[misdee]

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i think it would depend on the circumstances. If it is through frivolous spending then definitely no. If it is through illness and mortgage/bills payment then possibly but obviously a more long term solution would need to be found

No. We're responsible for our own money, and I would neither expect nor ask my parents to help us out.

No, and they wouldn't anyway.

No. We're adults. We live with the consequences of our mistakes.

NOOO! Are you ok, Misdee?

glad its not just me then that thinks that way.

i'm fine. iam rolling in it me

all that free parking is adding to my savings

No. I know they would help, but its one area of my life I prefer to keep private from them.

PMSL!

i'm watching bank of mum and dad, and even tho they dont give the kids the money, it shocks me about how much debt some have.

My parents did help out last year when we got into a real pickle through no fault of our own. However now the situation has been righted we will pay my mum & dad back every penny. However they will not accept interest from us - so we will do something nice for them (eg sit with my nana for a weekend so they can go away)

We would not have survived without their help and might have lost the house

BTW I did not ask for help - they insisted

Yeah MT my dp's family are very much like that, and I've only realised the extent now you've just said it.

I wouldnt expect my mum to lend me money but she would. And I have done and I always pay her back.
She has also borrowed from me and paid me back.
We are like interest free banks to each other.
I wouldnt borrow what i couldnt pay back from her or anyone though.

my family like to help each other, whether thats financially or otherwise. dont see the point of being ever so proud of standing on your own two feet if it means everyone is unhappy and struggling when the money is just sitting in a bank elsewhere. doesnt mean we are not independant, just that we pull together imo

but i wouldnt expect it btw, just be very grateful if they did help. wouldnt get upset if they said no

Wouldnt expect it, but they probably would regardless of circumstances (as long as it didnt keep happening)

Wow! I never, ever, ask my parents for anything, they've been giving all my life anyway, for which I will be eternally grateful. (and I don't just mean materially)

thats not being helped mt, thats using them.

MT thats awful.

what if its bad money management overall? like you are always skint before payday?

That sounds like my dp, Misdee.

If I was in real trouble and no way out, and they had the money, then I'd hope they would help. But I wouldn't demand it. My mother would resent my father for ever if he didn't help me out though (they divorced 26 years ago but she still hates him... so wouldn't do anything except give her a new burning grudge against him).

I've only ever asked my father for money for my sister when she's been in trouble - and I've really had to beg. No problem badgering him for her though, one occasion she would have been permanently disabled if left on an NHS waiting list and another she was pretty close to being homeless through no fault of her own.