Question for SAHM.'s...do you let your dh/dp take full control of finances?

[pepsi]

Im a SAHM and so is my SIL. I know exactly what our mortgage/bills etc are. she hasnt a clue and says that dh deals with all that, she looks after the house and he does everything else. She has no idea how much the phone bill is. she cant drive so doesnt even get to go to teh supermarket by herself so doesnt even control the food bills. Her dh (my bro), is a male pig or a controlling person, he even cooks the tea when he comes home from work but I find it unusual for the woman of the house not to have any idea wants going on regarding finances. Does anyone else live like this and if so are you happy with it. She seems totally happy with it.

The cooking the tea bit sounded good
Having no financial responsibility must be lovely - what a stress-free life! I don't think this is necessarily a bad scenario!

same as compio although I keep telling myself that I will involve myself more (add to ever increasing list of things to do).
Mostly, he deals with it because he does it all online at work. When UI'm online, I'm always on MN

When I was a SAHM I was in control of all the finances, I still am even though I'm back at work. All direct debits are in my name and come out of my bank account.
I like to know that all the money has been accounted for, bills paid etc. I was brought up by my mum who was a single parent and careful with her money so I guess I learnt it from her. I can't imagine ever letting someone else being in charge of the money or bills I wouldn't be able to sleep at night for worrying if everything had been paid.

This is funny - why is it specifically aimed at SAHMs? I'm sure there is a fair quota of WOTH mums whose DH/Dps also contro; the finances!

dh does all finances - tbh I am crap with money - still have a poor persons mentality - got a little bit today - must spend it, it might be gone tomorrow - legacy of v poor childhood. Also dont have time - have no local family support so do everything - I know how much mortgage is and bills when they are getting out of hand - ie if utilities go high. If it was down to me we would be broke with a capital B.

No, I've always been in charge of it. Luckily dh isn't a big spender.

If I left it to DH, none of the bills would be paid ever.

Yes, but only becuse he has the money. I do have to nag him though.

However, I keem most of my spending a secret, or elaborat on the truth a bit. Like "This skirt was a bargain. It only cost a tenner."