Questions about miscarriage

[banana87]

Sorry, I know this is my second thread and I just need to calm down (and go to bed) but I am just thinking and worrying and decidedly stepping away from Google.

Found out tonight that at 7+3 there is no growth from last week or a hb. This will be my second missed miscarriage, although I had a healthy pregnancy in between. I have many questions.

1. Am I classed as having recurrent miscarriage even though I had a healthy pregnancy in between? Do they worry more when its 2 consecutive missed miscarriages?

1. Do I need to ask for genetic testing when I have my ERPC?

1. Have any of you had 2 or more ERPCS? And if so, were you worried about Asherman's Syndrome?

1. Why can't my body miscarry and why have both mmc's been at the same gestational stage? Do we need to get tested to see if something is wrong with us?

I am scared, worried, anxious, and angry.

Sorry again to hear about your MC.

Not sure about number 1 & it is something I was wondering about myself, as I had one before I had my boys & a MMC 2 months ago, 11 years after the first. Was thinking it was consecutive MC's, but could be wrong.

They told me that they check for genetic abnormalities after the ERPC & would phone me if anything was found, so yes they should test.

I have had 2 ERPC's. Hadn't heard of Asherman's Syndrome before, but panicked when I read about it. (I am a panicker about most things!) Luckily all seemed to return to normal quite quickly after though.

Not sure why our bodies don't miscarry naturally. My body continued to carry on as a normal pregnancy for over 5 weeks before I found out about my MMC.
Not sure if they will test you. Go over your concerns with your doctor & see what they advise.

Thinking of you. x

Yes, i totally understand how you feel. it's horrible, isn't it?
let me see if i can answer your questions. i'm not a dr but i do know much more than i'd like to about all this. I've had four miscarriages.

1. I very much doubt it. One early miscarriage; then one successful pregnancy, then another early miscarriage, is not really a pattern. there's a one in five chance of any pregnancy miscarrying. it's likely though not certain that you've just had bad luck. the important thing is that you have carried a healthy pregnancy. You don't say how old you are - this could be relevant. if you are in your late 30s/40s, it's all the more likely to be 'bad luck' (or rather imperfect eggs) than anything more obscure.
2. No, and you'd be unlikely to be offered it on the NHS, unless you're lucky! i've never been offered it. 3)Yes. I've had three (one was for a very early termination many years ago) and yes, I was and am worried about Asherman's. However, i've asked the experts about this, and my understand is that it's not that the effect of the ERPCs is cumulative; it's simply that each time you have an ERPC there is a certain percentage risk of scarring. so each time you subject yourself to the procedure you face that risk. the more times you do it the more likely it is you'll be in the unlucky category. does that make sense?
3. I don't know; and it's horrible and i hate, hate, hate missed miscarriages too. i really think they're the worst. If you have another miscarriage, you could push for some tests on the NHS; and if you are in your late 30s or early 40s, and feel you don't want to hang around, you could go private. the usual NHS protocol is three consecutive miscarriages, before testing is offered. if you have a sympathetic GP they might bend the rules. I really hope that helps a bit and understand all too well what you are going through.

I am 30. I thought 30 meant less risks, does this change things?

Thank you both for your lovely replies xxx

30 means you're highly likely to be able to have lots more children. you might have another miscarriage or even more over the next few years but your fertility is proven and it's probable you've just had bad luck.