MISCARRIAGE

[mattsmama]

HELP - I have been told today I have a missed miscarriage - after weeks of ups and downs and highs and lows. One minute everything was okay then it wasn't - no wonder my head is confused! Howewever I now have the decision to make about either having an operation (ERPC) or medical management or letting it happen naturally.

Can anyone please advise me. I feel numb and my head is all over the place! At the moment I am thinking of the ERPC as unfortunately this is my second miscarriage. The first time happened naturally (not through choice) and was horrendously painful (physically and emotionally). However I am scared of having an operation and the risks etc. I would be very grateful for anyone's advice please. Thank you xx

So sorry you're going through this.

I found out I had had a MMC at my 12 week scan, just a couple of months ago.
Like you, I had experienced a natural MC years back & remember it as being a horribly painful experience. I also had to have a ERPC after as it hadn't all come away, so when given the choice this time, I opted for an ERPC straight away.

The op itself was fine. I was given a pessary before to soften my cervix, and the op itself only took around 15 minutes.
I felt fine as soon as I came round & was on my way home just over an hour later!
Other than a week or so of spotting & some period type cramps, the physical recovery was fine. Emotionally I took a while, but that would have been the case whatever route I had taken.

Thinking of you at this hard time. x

How awful. I am sorry. I had an ERPC my experience was the same as pinkchampagne. My consultant didn't offer my any other choice.
So I didn't give it a thought. I was given some wonderful drugs to help me cope with the emotional side and was really looked after. I definitely found it easier to cope with than my previous MC.
Thinking of you

hi there, sorry you're going through this - it's horrible.
i've experienced two sponteneous miscarriages and have also had two ERPCs for missed miscarriages. with my last miscarriage i was trying to avoid having the operation again and asked to wait to see if i could miscarry naturally. all that did was string out the whole miserable process for another two weeks and i ended up having to have the operation anyway.
So if i were you I would opt for an ERPC as soon as possible. It's physically painless and will draw a line under things. also your periods will probably return a little quicker than they would otherwise as the operation will give your system a 'clear out.' you don't say how far along you were but as you say "weeks" of ups and downs I am guessing you're some way down the line, which would add to the case for an ERPC as the natural option could be more painful.

Thank you all so much for your replies. It has really helped clear my head. I had made the decision to go for the ERPC. However in the last hour the hospital has informed me, that the Consultant in charge has looked at my notes and would like me to wait a further week to be 100% certain before any procedure is started. They also want to take my betahcg levels every 48 hours up until the scan. I can't explain what a rollercoster of emotions the past 5 or 6 weeks have been -not straightforward to say the least.

At the scan today there was a fetal pole albeit very small and they said there had been no growth. However the gestational sac has grown and this is why they want to wait. I kept going over all this with doctor this afternoon because obviously I didn't want to go ahead with anything if there was the smallest glimmer of hope and they said it wasn't a good outlook etc. However their Consultant in charge has over ridden any decisions made and wants me to wait a further week and have this further scan. I am relieved about this because at least if the worst still comes to the worst me and little fetal pole have had the best possible chance (after having read so much about misdiagnosed miscarriage) and I also know that the hard decision of which route to take will be easier. Thank you all so much your answers have really helped and it is a comfort to have advice from people who have been in the same situation and know better than anyone how this all feels. Thank you xx

By the way I will be 12 weeks by my period dates next Wednesday - but the scans have been putting me at least two weeks behind each time - goodness knows what is going on in there Hopefully next week I will know for sure. Thanks again xx