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Feeling a bit flat today, anyone else still sad years on?

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Wonderstuff · 21/06/2010 08:30

My first pregnancy ended in a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks. The baby was due on 21st June. I now have a beautiful 2 year old and am expecting another next month. I was very depressed after the miscarrige, for over a year I thought of it every day and was sad every day. I didn't deal with it very well at all. Took us over 2 years to conceive dd.

Anyway, don't think I have felt bad about it since dd was born, but today I just feel really sad and I don't know why, is first day of maternity leave, don't want to get dressed or do anything. Must have been over 5 years ago now - I need to get a grip.

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Dropdeadfred · 21/06/2010 08:45

Have you tried writing it all down? How you felt, both excited about the baby before the mmc and how you felt afterwards?
Sometimes this can help me.
I do know how you feel - i had a mmc found at 12 weeks scan and although i got pregnant months later and had a dd born almost a year to the edd, I do feel terribly sad someimes about the baby I didn't get and what I went through.
Is here someone you could ring and have a chat with?

Wonderstuff · 21/06/2010 08:57

Everyones at work aren't they - dh and I chatted about it last night, I can talk to him this evening. Think I need to get on task with my day really - dd is at nursery, feeling a bit lonely, which is silly because I was so looking forward to today on my own. Will go and get dressed and breakie.

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Dropdeadfred · 21/06/2010 10:40

i hope you're feeling better after your brekkie

swallowedAfly · 21/06/2010 10:50

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Wonderstuff · 21/06/2010 13:17

Thanks for the support. Am feeling a bit better now - went back to bed for a bit, I'm so shattered.

Early in pg I was so sick I couldn't focus on anything but that. I have been much more relaxed with this pregnancy than my last, not scared in the same way - I think that really I haven't focused on it much at all and now the reality has hit that I am actually going to have a new baby soon. Emotional stuff and I guess the homones are flying about.

Have decided to do minimal housework and just take it as easy as I can today.

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swallowedAfly · 21/06/2010 15:23

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