i just need to know!

[NickyW1]

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks back in 1991.I was 18 years old and didn't think to ask at the time,what happened to my baby? I'm currently having psychotherapy and one of the things I can't cope with,is not knowing what happened to my baby after the D&C.Can anyone help me please??

To be honest I feel any info would be a help.If you think it will upset me,it's okay.I know people who have had recent losses & they wer given their babies ashes.I can think about my baby now,without getting in a state,but I would feel better if I knew where she ended up.Sum1 suggested contactin the hospital I was in at th time,but I don't know who I would write to.Any ideas any1??

Thanx Loopy & Lunatic.You have at least given me somewhere to start from.

ive had 5 mcs. 4 of which went down the toilet. last one was taken away in a bed pan.

very very sad.
Rememebr how "out of your hands and therefore how out of your control" it was.
You would not have been able to influence the outcome.

Its upsetting how this has affected you after all of this time, it just shows how you never actually get over some thing like this doesnt it.
People around you seem to just forget about it weeks even days after doent they.
Well they do around me.

Hugs to you love x

For years i didn't feel able to talk about her.The father left me & the boyfrriend i was with when i had the mc,just wasn't bothered cos it wasn't his baby.He just didn't "get it".I'm in therapy now for lots of stuff,but finally it feels like i'm allowed to talk about my baby.Guess i never really came to terms with losing her.It feels good to know there are people out there that understand.Thank you so much x