So fed up - any words of wisdom?

[batteryhen]

Hello all,

I am so fed up today. I had a MMC at about 6 +3, back in March. I went for a medcial evac as I was really not given the choice of surgery. I didn't expell all products as i should have, and now 7 weeks on I am still bleeding. I went to the hospital 2 weeks ago, and a scan showed retained products, although my test was negative. My hcg was 33 at that point. The dr gave me progesterone tablets which I took for a week, then was told to stop to induce a heavier bleed. I have been a bit more heavy over the weekend, but now I am just back to the normal bleeding. I have to do a pregnanacy test on thursday and ring the hosptital again. By then it will be 8 weeks of non stop bleeding. I am really fed up, just want to get pregnant again, and as my partner is in germany, we hardly see each other to actually get pregnant! Was just wondering if anyone can give me any past experience advice. Thanks xxx

I don't have specific experience regarding mc but all I can say is try not to overthink it all. Let time take its course. Don't count weeks and days. Just get on with each new day and hopefully before you know it your time will come. One of the most simple and maybe overused sayings - but so very true - "Everything happens for a reason"

Good luck

I am sorry for your loss. I had a mc at 9 weeks in Dec. It was spontaneous so I didn't need any medical intervention. However, it took 11 weeks for my period to come, in that time, whilst I didn't bleed constantly I did keep bleeding again IYKWIM.
Is it really heavy bleeding? Do you know if you have passed everything? I did see the baby and sac come out and then lots of clots and slowly it got lighter. I would say that if it is still heavy perhaps a visit back to the doctor is necessary?
I didn't find "everything happens for a reason" a particularly helpful saying when I was going through the mc (sorry Irons I know you mean well but that would have had me in tears again). I don't know whether you are as desperately sad as I was, I was a mess TBH and didn't react well to lots of well meaning people. But time helps and your body will return to normal.

Look after yourself and I hope you have someone to look after you whilst your DH is away.

Thankyou both for your comments, and thoughts.

The bleeding is just like a normal period, at my last scan 2 weeks ago, they said there was retained products. I did a test this morning that was negative, and have had my HCG bloods doen today. Everytime it trails off, it comes back again. I have to call the hosptital tomorrow, but everytime I do they just tell me to wait another week. I swear I could kill someone out of sheer frustration. It doesnt help that I am a practice nurse and every thursday the midwife comes to see all our pregnant ladies. Just to rub salt in. My DH is off back to Germany on Sunday, so this week is rubbish. I ralise a lot more people are going throught a lot worse, so I am really sorry, but I just need to vent xx

I am sorry, please vent away.

I have bad days still where it takes every bit of energy in my body to stop myself from crying. I think the worse thing is that you are not meant to talk about it (that's how I feel), people expect you to move on quickly.

I would find it painful to see the midwife too.

Going back to the bleeding, after it died down it was really light and kept coming back. Like I said before my period returned at 11 weeks post date I miscarried the baby (I don't know what else to call it but you know what I mean).

Of course you are going to miss your DH, I don't know what to suggest, is there no one you can talk to, spend some time with? Are you going to be home alone?

I am so sorry, I really hope the bleeding stops very soon, I felt better when that was over and the constant reminder of what has happened was no longer there.

Take care xx

HI Kara,

I have just been in to see my own Dr,my HCG levels were 2 today which is good news, as this is the first time they have been that low. He has said to see what my hospital say tomorrow - as he feels I may need a D+C as he feels I might still have retained products. My hospital wont give me one- I have asked 3 times now. He said he will refer me for a second opinion to another hosptial if they dont do something for me - they just keep fobbing me off.

I am sorry for your loss too. Rubbish first few months of the year - but the next few will be better for us I am sure xx

Good news about your HCG levels.

Sorry that you are having to fight with the hospital too, last thing you need. I was lucky the hospital and my GP were amazing when I needed them, left me with a warm fuzzy feeling about the NHS. I wish it had for you too.

It will be warm soon (I hope) and the summer always makes things better.

Take care and good luck with the hospital.

xx