Please tell me it will be OK..

[Ladybuglet]

Hi,

This is my first post so please be gentle!

I had an emergency removal of an ectopic pregnancy at roughly 6 weeks on friday night. I was aware I was pregnant but had assumed the pregnancy was not viable as I'd been bleeding and that was fine. I'm devastated at the loss of my tube though.

The Consultant has said that due to my young age (27years) this should not impact on my future fertility but I would LOVE to hear from people who have gone on to have healthy babies after an ectopic pregnancy. My husband is in Afganhistan so its a particularly difficult time and I think to hear some positive stories would really make me feel so much better,

Thank you.

SX

Hi Ladybuglet, welcome to MN. I'm so sorry that you've had such a tough time, of course we'll be gentle.

I had an ectopic pregnancy, which resulted in my tube being removed about 3.5 years ago. It was a difficult experience, the baby was very much wanted and we'd been trying for a couple of years and having miscarriages and so to lose a tube as well as the baby felt like the final straw.

However, I went on to have a lovely little boy (just turned 2yo). The pregnancy was no problem, and the baby very healthy.

I did have IVF to concieve, but only because during the removal of my ep they found my remaining tube was not functioning as it should. The IVF was the only way we had left to get the sperm and egg meeting up . Doesn't sound like you have that problem. I've heard that if you have one good tube, then it can roam around and catch the egg from either ovary, meaning that fertility is not muvh affected.

I'm sure someone else will be along shortly to tell you about their pregnancies after ep - but I didn't want to leave you unanswered. I remember being very emotional and my hormones being all over the place after my ep. Take care of yourself and take things easy.

Sorry about your loss Ladybuglet . Hope you're getting a lot of support while your husband is away.

I'm sure there are lots of other ladies who will come along soon and share positive stories, although I haven't had an ectopic pregnancy my friend did, and went on to have a healthy baby boy just fine. I don't think it took her too long.

Take it easy on yourself, I hope you recover ok and your husband comes home soon and gives you a big hug!

There is also a thread in "Conception" (when you're ready for it) called "Just MC..." and there are lots of lovely ladies there who have experiences to share.

xxxx

Hi Ladybuglet. Very sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. I had one in February but was treated with drugs so was able to keep my tubes.

Your consultant is right, you should still be able to conceive fine despite this. And the odds of your next pregnancy being fine are really good.

If you want some hope I really recommend reading this article. It's about a woman who lost her right ovary and left tube but managed to conceive without IVF. Amazing stuff!

I also really recommend checking out the Ectopic Pregnancy Trust's message boards. Full of women who have gone through exactly the same and can offer support. Plus they have trained advisers on hand to answer any question you might have. I've found it a real lifeline. Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

I am sorry for your loss.

I have a friend who has had a lovely little girl (2 years old now) after an ectopic. And your consultant is right you are young.

Good luck xx

Thank you all so very, very much! You have given me such hope and made me feel so much better.

My husband has unfortunately just gone out but, I have a very supportive family and lots of friends around. I do worry about how he will get the opportunity to come to terms with it though. We have decided to choose an eternity ring together when he gets back to remember by.. I thought this was a very good idea

thank you all again

Ladybuglet, I'm glad you'r getting plenty of support from your friends and family. Your poor DH - stuck overseas.

I think the ring is a fantastic idea, in fact I've done something similar myself . I think it's important to recognise this event as a significant one for you both.

Hi Ladubuglet - my sister had 2 children after an ectopic pregnancy, and no IVF!