Did anyone else who suffered a MMC, continue to have pregnancy symptoms throughout?

[nomorewine]

I feel like a freak of nature as everytime I look up info on MMC, they all tell you that lack or loss of pregnancy symptoms can be a sign. I read this while pregnant & the only thing that reassured me was the fact I had very strong pregnancy symptoms.
I felt sicker than with my boys, exhausted, didn't fancy hardly any food or drink, couldn't stand strong smells, went right off tea (this continued until after ERPC), had huge breasts & had started to get a little bump. Looking back, the symptoms really flared up at the 7 week mark, which was apparently when the baby stopped growing. None of it makes sense.

I had lots of pregnancy symptoms with my mmc - baby died very early on, everything else kept going till scan then ERPC at 13 weeks. As the hormones are produced by the placenta, it's quite normal to have symptoms, although sometimes they are less if the placenta etc don't grow as much as they should iyswim

I had a mmc with my last pregnancy - I had a bleed at 8 weeks but scan showed a hb and was given a 98% chance that all would be well - the following 2 weeks I had the worst symptoms - felt so sick and sore - they started to tail off around 12 weeks - I started to bleed again and found out that the pregnancy had stopped at 8 weeks - just after the scan.

I used to think the same as you but I think the body can sometimes try to keep the pregnancy going even though it's all finished.

Big un-Mumsnetty hugs to you because it sucks - hope you get a sticky pregnancy soon.

Oh that must have been terrible for you, Jacanne, to see a heartbeat & be given such good hopes, only to find out you had a MMC.
It really is the pits isn't it? I am haunted by the momory of that scan & looking at what looked like an empty sac. Was 3 weeks ago now, but I am still struggling with it.

Really felt let down by my body to have carried round a baby that had stopped growing for a whole 5 weeks, and to have all those strong pregnancy symptoms throughout.
For some strange reason though, I had an odd sixth sense all would not be well at the scan, but had no reason to feel that way. As I laid on that bed to be scanned I felt absolutely sick to the stomach & kind of knew something would be wrong, and I was right.

I had awful pg smptoms til 9 weeks and then started to feel a little better. My MMC was at 7 weeks, but def felt pg til the ERPC and then felt entirely NOT pg. If it helps, I have 3 children now and had 4 other mc's but a whole lot earlier - the MMC was first. My sympathies. x

Hi nomorewine,

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My thoughts are totally with you and I hope you have a strong support network of friends and family who can help and support you through this difficult time.

Last year I missed 3 periods before finally getting a positive HPT. By the time I got my positive I was about 8 weeks gone.

The tiredness and hunger continued but I then developed larger breasts, a tiny bump, sickness and constipation.

The sickness eased off about 4 days before the scan and I figured I was going into second trimester so less sickness was to be expected right?

When I had the scan at 12 weeks I was told baby had stopped developing at 8+3, and would need surgical removal.

Part of me felt so stupid for having had all of the symptoms - like my body had betrayed me or deceived me somehow. And it also made it so much harder to let go of the pregnancy. The other part of me was just consumed by the shock and trauma of it.

However, 6 months on, now I know that my body can be trusted to do what it thinks is right, it was after all doing what it thought was best for the baby.

I know any number of responses won't bring your baby back but please know that you are not alone.

hugs ...loopy

Thank you, it does help to talk to others who have been through this as I don't know of anyone in RL.

My symptoms had started to calm just before my scan too, but my midwife told me I should expect more & more good days as I was approaching the 12 week mark, so I wasn't too worried. My breasts remained tender, I still felt sick after eating a meal & still couldn't stomach tea, so symptoms were still there, just calmer.

I guess that is a good way of looking at it, loopy - that your body was trying to do what was best for the baby, rather than feeling it has let you down.

I seem to have had a bit of a relapse these last few days. I had thought I was coping much better, but seem to have gone backwards.

Nomorewine - give yourself more time - I'm not suprised you're feeling bad still - it's devastating - you can't help but see that child in your future even though you know you should be careful not to get excited etc. I was lucky enough to get pregnant fairly quickly after both of my mmcs - am 38 weeks now - but still have a photo of the last little bean tucked away in my drawer.

Ahh, that is nice to hear, Jacanne. Good luck with it all.

Hello nomorewine

Found out that I had a mmc on Thursday night was gutted but had a feeling that was gonna be the case as i was bleedong from Thursday morning. was in the hopital most of yesterday - wasnt too emotional yesterday as in a lot of pain. The pain has has subsided a lot and now I cant stop thinking about it. i was just over 11 weeks and thought, like you, that everything was going fine, had morning sickness, tiredness etc. I thought I'd have a baby for Christmas, shouldnt have got my hopes up so much. I hope you're as well as you can be. Take care xxxx

So sorry to hear that, tattyteddy. My thoughts are with you - it really is the pits.

I hadn't even had any bleeding or spotting with mine, but something inside me was telling me all would not be right, despite strong pregnancy symptoms. The only thing I kept reassuring myself with, was the fact strong symptoms were thought to be a good sign from everything I had read. Seems we are all proof that this is sadly not always the case.

My baby would have been due on the 14th October, DP's birthday.

We are all here if you need to talk. I have found it has helped me a lot to talk to others who have been through the same & really understand. Take good care of yourself. xx

Yes, I was just the same. I had no bleeding or spotting or anything unusual, my breasts were tender, my bump was growing, I felt exhausted. No morning sickness but I didn't have that with DD who is now three so it didn't worry me. The MMC was only picked up at my 12 week scan and the baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I felt pregnant.

The baby would have been due in June and I am thinking about it a lot at the moment as I would have been really pregnant by now. Look after yourself and give yourself permission to be as miserable/nutty as you like. It is a horrible horrible thing to happen to anyone.

It really is isn't it & the recovery seems a slow process. I can't stand hearing about or seeing people who would have been due a similar time to me. I have been invited to a party in May, but really don't think I can go as the host will be 5 months pregnant, and I don't know if I am up to seeing her bump & having to talk to her about the pregnancy. That sounds really bad doesn't it?

Must be hard for you as you are nearing what would have been your due date.

nomorewine,
your fellings of being unsure weather to attend the party where the host is pregnant are very understandable, i dont think i would be able to do baby talk at the moment either.
i also had a mmc and waited 9 weeks for it to come away naturally but nothing happened, no spotting or bleeding etc, i felt very let down and cheated by my body, as if i had no controll over what was happening to me, i still had all the pregnancy symptoms right up untill medical management 2 weeks ago. i could not stomach coffee (decaf while pregnant) and even now the smell of coffee makes me feel sick, my breasts are still sore and i still get migrains which i never had untill i got pregnat but my doctor recons this is normal and should change when my hormones settle down.
i wish the old wifes tale of the more symptoms the better was true for all of us on MN but obviously we proved them wrong.
take care of your self hun, you need to give your self time to cope physicaly and emotionaly with what has happened and this could take a while so try not to push your self too hard.
my thoughs are with you x

So sorry to hear all these sad stories.

I am going through it right now. Waiting for second blood test result (miscarriage started Thursday, had blood test which showed positive, bleeding worsened then stopped on Sun morning) but I am getting symptoms stronger now than I did before, morning slight sickness, bigger boobs (not hard with my teeny weenys!) leg pain, and I have a little soreness in my tummy.

I know I shouldn't have but yesterday I took pee stick tests and am still showing positive, so am guessing hormones are still raging in my system.

Will get second blood results today or tomorrow, hopefully they'll be clearly negative, or much lower than last week and I can start moving on.

I just can't help having little bit of hope, but I know it's highly unlikely.

Just wanted to get my feelings out, thanks for listening. x

Update. My symptoms are because apparently, according to yesterday's blood tests - is progressing!! WTF!!! No sure if that means 'progressing normally' yet. Just so you know there is hope!

Just to let you know a definite miscarriage has been confirmed

Thu last week HCG 24
Tues this week HCG 64
today (Thurs) down to 55.5

Pelvic exam showed closed cervix and all fine and dandy, have another blood test on Sat to ensure hormones stabilise or continue to go down, then I will try again .

Hairy x

hairy so sorry to hear your news.
i know what its like to be given faulse hope and then have all your hopes dashed.
take care of your self hun.
my thoughts are with you.
jakey x

So sorry, hairy.