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Waiting for a period before trying again?

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betteryhen · 18/04/2010 09:29

Morning all,

I was wondering if anyone could offer me any advice. I had a medical MC almost a month ago, and hopefully am just finishing bleeding now. My Dr said to wait for a period before trying again, but does it really matter? Is that just for dating purposes? The reason I ask is that my dp lives abroad so we don't see each other very much, so its a bit hit and miss!xxx

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batteryhen · 18/04/2010 10:47

P.S I meant to add that we are off to Egypt in two weeks and would like to start trying then, but probably won't have had my first period by then, so its a question of just going for it then, or waiting possibly another few months till we see each other again

Dai5yChain · 18/04/2010 12:04

I also had MM of my MMC and was told to wait a month for "dating purposes". As far as I can tell from what people have said to me (medical professionals, friends and people on boards like these) there is no medical reason to wait.

I understand your situation and you must do what you need to do, but for me I will be waiting for reasons I have been given:
-if I got pg on the first cycle, but dates are inaccurate then if something seemed to be going wrong it would take longer and more scans and blood tests and things before they can work out what was going on.
-I have been told that if you feel like you have been trying for ages without actually knowing whether you have OVd it can be emotionally hard work after MC.
-your first cycle can take a long time to start and you don't always OV in the first cycle.

You'll know what's right for you to do. Good luck whatever you decide

arena · 18/04/2010 13:00

I did'nt wait for a period, i tryed again soon as the bleeding stopped, and i was pregnant again the same month i m/c, without a period.

He's 8 months old now, don't see why you have to wait, if you feel ready then go for it. Like you said it's only for dating. Good luck.

belgo · 18/04/2010 13:02

No you don't need to wait for a period. I didn't and got pregnant immediately after my second mc.

Good luck!

belgo · 18/04/2010 13:02

I knew when I ovulated so the pregnancy was accurately dated.

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 18/04/2010 13:03

Purely because of my experience I would say try and wait for 1-2 proper periods before trying to conceive.

4madboys · 18/04/2010 13:06

another person who didnt wait for another period and got preg again straight away, ds2 is now 7, they arranged an extra scan to check on my dates, but it didnt cause any problems at all.

i had a friend who miscarried and at the hospital they told her if she wanted to she could try again straight away, i have heard it said that you are actually more fertile just after a miscarriage? why that would be i dont know, but she was told this.

sorry for your loss, and good luck for the future xxx

batteryhen · 18/04/2010 15:40

Thank you all for your comments I will let you know how we get on! x

LLJ4 · 19/04/2010 13:47

Dating reasons sounds a bit rubbish - after all, LMP is only a "last date definitely not pg" date.

For example, as far as my hospital is concerned, the last day I passed POC could very reasonably be considered as my "last date definitely not pg" date, which would give a maximum possible gestation length.

I had a long discussion about this with the doctor on gynae ward (went for MM over the weekend) and she said most people like to wait until after their first real period, not least because they tend to still be losing blood for quite a while, and it takes a while to feel up to it emotionally. She said that once you feel ready your body will be ready.

Good luck to us all xxx

skidoodly · 19/04/2010 13:50

My aunt conceived both her sons straight after miscarriages. She reckoned she was more fertile then and refused to wait.

batteryhen · 19/04/2010 16:19

LLJ4,

Thank you for that, I have to go back to the hospital on thurday as I still have positive pg test, and still bleeding - although much lighter. I am having a scan too, so will def know if I have anything left behind This has been going on for so long now, I just want it done and dusted. We have decided that we will go for it when we can - or it could be months before we see each other again! Emotionally we feel ready to try again, we will just have to see if my body is up to it xx

batteryhen · 19/04/2010 16:23

skidoodly,

Thats good to know too , thanks

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