1st pregnancy - pre prom, prem baby 30 weeks. 2nd pregnancy - miscarried at 8 weeks. 3rd pregnancy???? i'm so worried.

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I am currently on my third pregnancy after having a premature baby the first time around. Unfortunately Summer only lived 4 hours and I watched her take her last breath. She was born week 30. My waters broke at week 18 and the lack of fluid meant her lungs didn't develope. I was devestated. The worst thing was that no-one could give me a reason why this happened to me, so no infection, my womb was fine and so was my cervix.

I didn't even realise that I was pregnant the second time around. I had my normal cycle so I am unsure how far gone I was. I found it very frustrating that the hospital were un-willing to share this information with me. At a guess I was 8weeks +.

Now i'm pregnant again. On week 6 and showing already. I think I am as big now as I was at 4 months the first time around. Its very strange.

I'm so scared. There seems to be very little information available and I find it incredible that all these woman go through this and yet so little money is put into research. I get so mad about it. Anyway as there is very little informaiton available to me I thought I'd post this and see if there are others out there who may have gone through the same or similar experiences to me and find out the outcomes, good and bad.

I also need to know stuff like - can I have sex? can I have an orgasm etc. I know it sounds silly but maybe there is a cervix problem and maybe an orgasm would cause an issue with the cervix.

Any information/advice that anyone has will be greatly received.

thanks

Hi,

Didn't want to leave your message unanswered but I'm sure someone far more knowledgeable will be along soon.

Sorry to hear you have had to endure so much crap, there is a thread here for those going through pg after some traumatic experiences in previous pgs.

Personally I'm 31wks with my 5th pg, dd1 (3 years old) 2 mc, dd2 stillborn at term. Despite that history the 2pgs I carried to term were uneventful. I think you GP could advise you on the sex issue, we were told either way it was unlikely to have any effect, however it was something within our control and I wasn't much up for it in the early stages anyway.

I hope you get the reassurance you need. Request an early scan from your GP if you can (after my first mc I had one each time at 8 weeks but had to request it quite assertively).

Congratulations by the way!

Thanks for responding to me WoollyJo and i'm so sorry to hear about your bad experiences.

I've been to see the Doc today who has now referred me to an OB. It's up to the OB if he/she wants to see me so early in the pregnancy. Fingers crossed he will see me soon.

I just found out that because I am rhesus negative I should have had am Anti D injection last time I miscarried. This didn't happen and the chances are that I have now created anti bodies against my boyfriends blood type which is A positive. I absolutely fuming about it. Has anyone else had similar experiences to me? I was trying to find out more informaiton about this from the Doctor today however she didn't seem to understand what I was talking about.

Hopefully the OB appointment will come through soon.