Unfortunately on Friday at what should have been a 8w+2d scan we found out there was an empty sac and no baby. We were then given the option to miscarry naturally or take some suppositories to bring on a miscarriage, I didn't want to wait what could be weeks so went for the medical option.
I took these at 12pm on Friday and about 7pm i started bleeding, had some cramps during the night but blood flow has not been too heavy, more brown and just like a slightly heavier period. On Saturday afternoon i passed quite a big clump which I guess was the sac but other than that i have been pain free and am worried that things are not running their natural course. The doctor did say it is different from woman to woman in that they might have a heavy or light bleed with pain or no pian but I would appreciate some real life experiences from people who have actaully been through it.
With regard to the mental aspect of it I am of course heart broken but mostly feel cheated as I was having loads of symptoms like nausea, sickness, sore boobs, constipation, nose bleeds and was very tired but it was all for nothing. It took us two years to get here and the pregnancy was the result of our first IVF attempt, so it's not even as if we can just get right back to ttc as we have to get back into the IVF again.
Trying to think positive, like firstly it was natures way of saying that this baby was just not meant to be and that we did manage to get pregnant, the issues with concieving seems to be that my DH has slow swimmers.
Have spent the weekend eating all the things your not supposed to when pregnant and had quite a few large glasses of wine too. Just need to look to the future and hope that we get there soon.
Sorry for this big ramble but feeling better to have written this all down, my DH has been great and really supportive but other than that I had only told my boss (thankfully one of the nicest people I know) and a friend about the pregnancy and now the miscarriage but right now i don't want to tell other poeple. I am quite a private person but also right now I don't see the point of telling people as it is a very sad thing for them to know and what can they say or do to make it better? I might change my mind in the coming weeks, I just don't know.
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NBelle · 11/04/2010 10:01
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