I'm miscarrying right now, just need some words of wisdom please

[Harry2007]

Hello,

My dp and I decided to try for a baby in February and with the help of the Clearblue Fertility Monitor, I fell pregnant immediately.

I should have been six weeks precisely on Sunday but found out I was bleeding (brown blood) on Sunday afternoon. I went to see the out of hours GP as I also had pain on my right side but he just sent me home. I went to the early pregnancy unit on Monday morning and they immediately did an external scan but couldn't see anything. They then did an internal scan, couldn't see any sign of an ectopic pregnancy and could only see a 2mm black spot which could have been a very early pregnancy. They could tell that the lining of the uterus had thickened. The bloods they took showed a hcg level of 249.

I know that I didn't ovulate until day 21 of my cycle which would have been 6th March. I'm going back in tomorrow for another hcg test. The bleeding stopped at around eight o clock last night but I have had uncomfortable period type pains today.

I'd be grateful for your thoughts on this situation. Deep down I know it's all over, but I can't help clinging onto some hope x

I'm sorry it's so difficult not knowing for sure. Don't remember how long it was over but seemed like big huge gap of not really knowing.

I don't know what will happen but I wanted to wish you well! For what it's worth I had dd now 1.5 since then. No consolation for you but fingers crossed x

my 2nd mc was how you have discribed, they examined me and found nothing, said my womb was closed so i could either have miscarried or be very very early pg and have my dates wrong. i knew deep down that i had miscarried and they did the hcg test. i had to go back a week later and have another test to make sure the hcg ad gone down and they could confirm the miscarraige. the week inbetween was awful. like you i clung on to hope. tbh i felt better once i knew for certain as i could pick mydelf up an carry on. hope it works ofr you int he end

I am assuming this is your first baby?

Brown blood is old blood so in a sense that is good news and doesn't necessarily mean it has been lost.

Pains can be the uterus stretching.

I was told I would probably lose the baby when I told the midwife I was having pain and she went on to describe what would happen at the hospital. That baby is now 9 and making toast over the fire.

I have had 2 miscarriages and both were different.

Don't give up hope yet.

Thanks both. I don't think I've ever known the true meaning of "sad" until now. I just cried and cried last night, couldn't stop. Today I've been veering from thinking of all the reasons why it may not be a miscarriage to thinking about how soon before I can try again. It's absolutely devastating.

I have a ds who is 3 fab

I have two queries with this whole situation - given that I didn't ovulate until cycle day 21, which is a week later than the norm, could I be dating the pregnancy a week more than it should be? Secondly, would a 2mm black "spot" on the scan be consistent with a possible 5 week pregnancy?

...sorry one more thing, the hcg level seems really low

I can't help you with that, sorry. My levels were not doing what they should whether it was a miscarriage or an ectopic. The lost baby's brother is sat with me right now.

Hi there, really sorry you are going through this.

Yes if you ovulated on day 21 you should adjust your dates back a week. So hopefully there is hope but sorry do not know about HCG levels.

Really hoping the news is good for you.

I have had 4 miscarriages all around 6/8 wks into the pregnancy all started with the same events you are describing, it's a very distressing time for you believe me I know, but please hold on to the hope that you might not miscarry, they do say you can bleed in early pregnancy so fingers cross for you. I've gone on to have two beautiful little girls, and I hope there is a happy ending for you too, but please remember if the worse does happen there will be nothing you could of done to prevent it. Life sucks at times, please up date us how you are xx