miscarriage and flying/holiday

[busylady]

hi everyone

i had a scan last week when i was 8+6 an only measured 6 weeks with no fetal heartbeat, i've been bleeding a bit since then, a mix of fresh and old, not really any cramp or pain though... anyway, i went back to the hosptial yesterday for them to assess the bleeding, my cervix was closed and the scan showed the same thing as last week and they couldn't find a source for the bleed (its obviously a MMC but nobody will tell you that until the follow up scan because of the sizes etc..)

Anyway, I'm supposed to be going to Spain tomorrow, has anyone flew and been ok, or have you been advised not to? they said i should be ok if the bleeding calms down.. just wanted some advice from experience on here

thanks in advance,,,

Hi there. So very sorry to hear of your loss. I think everyone is different when it comes to miscarriage, so it's a bit difficult to say. I'm sure flying itself won't cause you any major problems if they can't give you a medical reason not to, but it is largely dependent on how you feel and whether or not you'll be comfortable.

If you've started to bleed spontaneously, there's a good chance that your body will continue to miscarry. When I first started miscarrying, it was a lot like a period for the first week (very manageable) and there was very little in the way of pain. However, it did become very heavy and painful after that when my cervix began to dilate. It was a lot like a mini labour and I wouldn't have been able to leave the house during the worst bit. Sorry - I'm not meaning to scare you. I just found the information given to me at the hospital was worse than useless as to what you should expect! Having said that, I did miscarry at 12 weeks, so it could have been worse because it was a little further along. You are probably the best judge of how you feel. Be kind to yourself and take it easy.

Hi busylady,

So sorry about your miscarriage. I'd echo what Tads said - with my mmc I bled like a period for about a week, and then had several hours of really heavy bleeding - I had to stay in the bathroom for those hours. I still had an ERPC after that (so about 10 days after I had first started bleeding) as it wasn't all coming out.

I'd say just go with how you feel about it. If it's any help, I wasn't at home for the worst bit, I was at a friend's house dogsitting, so it is manageable to be away from home. I just planned ahead by making sure I took my own towels, lots of pads, some painkillers, and I knew where the nearest hospital was just in case there were any problems.

I hope this helps. My dates were just a little further along than yours.

All the best,

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Sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

Think what Tads said was about right.

I was similar to [email protected] weeks, started to bleed and have cramps and had a scan: it had stopped growing at 6 weeks with no hearbeat.

I also experienced labour type pains- even with prescription painkillers I ended up going to the EPU via ambulance due to strong pain and heavy blood loss (felt weak and dizzy). I couldn't straighten out at all, just had to curl up and relied on gas and air for a bit. That phase only lasted a few hours though, and I wasn't admitted into hospital.Part of my problem was I am allergic to most painkillers (except paracetamol) so the ones I was given by the doctor made me feel even worse- possibly wasn't the blood loss that was an issue but the effects of the drugs if that makes sense.

I think I was probably extreme, mine was very quick from first initial spotting and mild cramps(Sunday) to cervix opening (Tuesday) and completion (passing of the 'products' ) on Tuesday/Wednesday night, then I bled for a few more days. If your cervix is still closed then I guess it could be a while?

Do what feels right for you. Personally I wanted to hide away until it was all over and didn't want to go anywhere. Make sure you've got support round you as well.

Take care of yourself x