I had baby not a miscarriage

[shazra]

My Baby was perfect born alive and just left to die.

Many babies are born under 24 weeks are breathing and their little heart is beating. Under current legislation doctors can refuse to treat the child and leave them to die. I feel this is unfair and EVERY child should be given the chance to live.

My Son was born at 20weeks he was alive and lived for 50minutes. Doctors refused to give medical help because he was born under 24 weeks but I believe that even though he should have had a right to medical help.

I can say it is the worst thing for anyone to have to go through.

My baby died in my arms and nobody did any thing.

Atleast they could have tried.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

There's nothing that can make this right and debating it just won't help but having been there, I do understand your rage.

I am so sorry for your loss.

I also think that the fact that he wasn't treated at 20 weeks is to do with where medicine is at right now, not because he isn't valued as a little person. It just doesn't have the tools to make a baby this tiny well again.

This isn't going to make it any better that you lost your baby son, but I wanted to say it because the feeling that nobody did anything or didn't see your baby as a person must be so, so hard. If anyone medical says anything to you like this, just remember it is a failure of medicine above all else and some medical practitioners are so uncomfortable with this that they are thoughtless and unkind to grieving mums. The skills and knowledge to keep your baby alive just aren't there.

I wish it didn't have to be like this for you.

shazara I am so sorry for your loss.

Your poor tiny son was never going to make it though - he was 2 weeks earlier than the earliest baby to survive, and if the doctors had intervened it would have caused him pain and suffering for all of his tiny little life - needles and tubes and other painful things, and there are very few paediatricians out there who can even deal with a 24 week preemie. The only thing they could have done for your son was to make him comfy and let you love him for as long as you had him.

I have a close friend who lost her dd at 23 weeks, I have supported her through all of this, it is the hardest thing anyone ever has to do.

They did nothing - because there was nothing they could do.

I am so sorry.