Pregnancy after miscarriage - too soon?

[IfAtFirstYouDontSuceed]

After 3 years of trying and a referral to a fertility specialist with the threat of all sorts of tests my husband & I recently found out I was pregnant!!

Unfortunately I am currently miscarrying after only 5 weeks. Due to have a scan on Thursday to make sure it's all gone.

We are eager to try gain as soon as possible, but are unsure whether it's physically too soon.
There are all sorts of recommendations flying around about waiting several month to allow your body to get back to normal - surely after only a few weeks there wouldnt have been much change. However, I don't want to risk the chance of another if my body wasnt ready, but every month is precious.

Also, will I ovulate this month? Is the miscarriage classed as a period (ie should I ovulate 14 days since I started bleeding?)

Your words of wisdom are appreciated.

Some Docs recommend you wait for 3 months after mc to let you body get abck to normal. However, there is not really any reason why you cant start to try immediately, some say you are more fertile within the 1st few months.

Dont class the mc as a period, and there is no predicting when you ovulate afterwards.

I bled on average for about 2 weeks after my mcs.
Tried again immediately as you rightly say, every month is precious.
Good luck and sorry for your mc of your precious precious first baby, big hugs and i want to send you tons of baby dust for your future xx

After my last mc, I fell pregnant again within days.
They tell you to wait for your next period so they can work out dates easier, but if you feel you are ready to start trying again straight away, go for it.
Good luck xxx

Firstly, I am so sorry to hear that you are miscarrying. It is so upsetting, so do give yourself time to grieve if you need to.

I think people tell you to wait to give yourself time to get over it. It is physically tiring just because your hormones are all over the place, however I don't think there is any reason why your body wouldn't "be ready" (though I am no doctor). You won't get pregnant if your body is not "ready".

Just so you know, I have had 3 miscarriages. The second I had at about 8 weeks and I got pregnant a month later, had my third miscarriage again at about 9 weeks, then fell pregnant again straight away and now have DS3.

Best of luck. Thinking of you x

I ovulated (was testing) 14 days after the first day of miscarriage. This might vary widely though, no idea. My GP said to wait a month, which I ignored, but nothing doing. On month two now and waiting!
So sorry about what's happening. Great that you got pregnant though, and fingers crossed for you for next time.

I mc and tried straight away after i had stopped bleeding and am now 11+5weeks pregnant with a healthy bean. I got pregnant in the first month after mc. Good luck and sorry you mc

i am sorry to hear you are going through this.I think that as long as you have the all clear and once you stop bleeding it should be about how you feel over ttc again and how soon. as stated i think the only reason you are told to wait is for dating purposes.
i can understand the worry over not wanting it to happen again but after reading all the threads on mn there is light at the end of the tunnel. one thing for sure since it happened to me at the end of jan i have been reading all the stories on mn and they have helped me through this horrible horrible time.
take care of yourself and go with how you feel, good luck xx

Thanks all for you kind & re-assuring words.

Docs can say "it's common" as many times as they like, it doesnt make it any easier. However, hearing stories from those who have experienced it themselves does help!

x

IfAtFirst, here's my experience:

February - miscarried at 5 weeks
March - conceived

My DS is now 3.

Wishing you all the very best!

Oh, and I'm really sorry about your MC, as well.

I'm glad (not sure that's the right word) to read this thread. Had my 12 week dating scan yesterday and instead of a 12+3 fetus, found a 6 week sac. It being a missed miscarriage, my body still thinks it's pregnant. My hCG levels are lowering (I think - got another test tomorrow to make sure) but I don't want to let nature take it's course - it's been 6 weeks already and my body still hasn't cottoned on to the fact. Can't wait for it to catch up. I'm hopefully going to have d & c tomorrow night. We'd like to try again as soon as we can, but was wondering does anyone have any experience/advice about conceiving after a missed miscarriage? I'm worried that my hCG levels will be too high. Thanks x

Sorry for hijacking the thread, have started my own. x

Dear IAFYDS
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage it really is shit. For what its worth my MC /baby history is as follows...I've had 3 MCs and three bouncy babies now aged 10, 4 and nearly 2 I had DS (now 10) then two MC's 3 months apart, then gave up trying, ended up separating from DH1 ...meet someone else a few years later (now DGH2)got pregnant had DD1 now 4 , the started trying for DC3 when DD1 was about 18 montsh old, had a MC and only waited for one period got pregnant again and had lovely DD2 nearly 2. My hospital is Kings College Hospital in London and they told to wait for one period after a MC before trying again but only so they can date the pregnancy thre is no medical reason to wait.
Good luck I'll be thinking of you.

Hi IfAtFirst,

Just to echo what the others have said - and also to say sorry to hear about your mc.

There is a nice supportive thread here where there are lots of ladies who have miscarried and are ttc again, so lots of examples of experiences there, and there is a nice "grads" list to show all those who have then gone on to conceive again, which I like to look at as it gives me lots of hope!!

Hope you are getting lots of hugs in RL, sorry you are going through this,

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Hi there. I thought you'd like a positive spin on this. After 3 and a half years of trying, I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks and then the next month a miscarriage which started before I realised I was pregnant. Nothing happened the next month but got pregnant with my 5 year old the following month - similar to you having to cancel surgery the fertility experts told me I needed.

I now also have a 4 year old and 2.5 year old, all concieved naturally. In my experience, you are most fertile immediately after a miscarriage and as you start stopping breastfeeding. Good luck - I hope this helps.

Sorry about your MC. I got pg about 2 weeks after a fairly early MC earlier this year (so I did ov about 14/15 days later), and then MC'd again at 6+4. From what I have read though there isn't really any medical reason to wait (and the posters above back this up), but i think for me there was an emotional aspect which I didn't take into account. I was completely strung out for the entire time I knew I was pg with the second one, to the point where I could hardly sleep or eat. It can't have helped. This time we're taking a break for a few months, I think I need the time. If you do try again, make sure that you're really ready to accept and feel optimistic about a new pregnancy. good luck!

It's good to hear about all these different experiences. Thanks ladies. I think everyone has a different physical and emotional reaction to mmc. I'd love for my body to get back to normal so we can start again, but I'm beginning to accept that that may take several weeks if not months. I'm going to try to get on with my work in the meantime and just hope it happens and try not to worry if it doesn't (and indeed if it does!). I didn't suffer the 'wave of sadness' just after waking up this morning, so I think my brain is starting to come to terms with it. The erpc yesterday really helped with that. Going down to look at our new house today which will be sad as we had such dreams about what living there would be like, but it's a positive thing to do.

I had a mc last april, started trying again in July, conceived in August and I'm now 32 weeks with DC3. I only waited 3 months because the mc was complicated by infection and I was quite anaemic and felt I needed a few months to recover.

That's an uplifting story mollybob. Thanks for sharing. Not panicking is the main thing and keeping perspective (at least that's what I'm going to try...) x

I am so sorry to hear that. I had a miscarriage in January and decided to keep ttc straight away, and amazingly I got pregnant before having a period. It had taken a while to get pregnant, so I don't know if there is some truth in being more fertile after a mc. So I am now about 10 weeks. Emotionally though it is really hard because I am so scared and not over the loss. But it would be really hard whenever I had got pregnant tbh. And I wanted to get pg before the dreaded "35"!! I also feel like I have been pregnant for so long, but am still at this early stage basically have been pg since mid Dec, with a 2 week gap in the middle. Lots of luck to you.