Feel anger and frustration towards my husband

[Heartbrokenmom]

I feel awful for being so angrey and my husband, but i can't seem to help it. i we lost are baby at 16 weeks last Mon. This is so unbearable for me I just can't seem to deal. I feel like im gonna loose it. I know my husband cares but i can't help but feel like not enough not like i do. He just seems to go on like it's another day I feel like everyday i wake up and i relive Mon all over again and i can't keep from cryin and i just wanna break somethin. We have 3 kids that we have to be strong for and i know it, but i just wish he seemed like he cared a little more or at least on the outside. He says he has to stay busy to keep his mind off things but i want him to talk to me about it and he just can't seem to do that. I don't know I couldn't talk to him thats how i founs this site is anyone else feeling like this towards there spouse?

I'm so very sorry for your loss, Heartbrokenmom.

Your DH almost certainly does care, but many men like to be able to fix things, and he can't fix this, so he feels helpless and avoids the topic. On top of that, if he feels it's his job to be all strong and silent when supporting you, how can he admit to you his weakness grief?

With 3 other kids, I guess time is at a premium, but you really need to sit down with him, show your grief and ask him to share his feelings too. It may feel like an extra burden on you, initially; "Shit, now I have to deal with his feelings, as well as my own and DCs" but IME it's better to share than not.