Possible misscarriage.

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McChat · 27/02/2010 20:54

I am 9 weeks pregnant and started bleeding on Wednesday night. I am now waiting to have a scan to see if my baby is ok but it's not until Wednesday. Why do we have to wait so long? I want to know now if my baby is ok. I feel my worrying could make things worse.
I don't know what to do with myself and my husband is home to look after me, he is helping around the house a lot but he just can't understand how I feel.
I haven't told my family yet as I don't want to worry them so when they call and mention the baby I find it very hard.
We also have a daughter how is 3 soon and maybe it's wrong but we told her about the baby as she is desperate for a brother of sister but I don't know how to handle things if the worst does happen.

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randomimposter · 27/02/2010 21:52

McChat, so sorry you are where you are. Waiting til Weds sounds a very long time? Is that at a Early Pregnancy Unit? Can they REALLY not see you any sooner? Is your bleeding light or getting heavier? I would say if it is getting heavier or redder, you should go to A&E, and gain admittance that way.
Bleeding need not necessarily be bad news. I had a heavy bright red bleed at 14 weeks with my son; he's tucked up right now upstairs. I hope in your case it works out ok.
Keep us posted.

Gi1da · 27/02/2010 22:00

So sorry to hear of your situation. Does seem like an awfully long time to wait. Can you try calling on Monday to see if they will see you sooner? In the meantime do just try to stay calm though I know that probably feels impossible. Am sure you will find lots of support here whatever happens. DH's often can't understand quite what we are going through, but there are plenty of ladies here who do. Rest up and best of wishes to you x

randomimposter · 03/03/2010 16:18

McChat any news?

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McChat · 03/03/2010 17:54

Thank for the support, I had my scan today and there was no heart beat. I am so angry that I have had to wait so long. I haven't had any bleeding since last week so I was still very hopeful. I have booked in for a D&C tomorrow as a can't face having to wait another few weeks to pass the baby on my own, I just want it to be over so I can move on.

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lal123 · 03/03/2010 17:59

sorry to hear your sad newsxx

randomimposter · 03/03/2010 20:30

McChat am so sorry - it's a horrible time I know. At least take comfort that you are getting your ERPC tomorrow. I learned I'd had a missed MC last Friday - my ERPC isn't until next Tuesday . Totally understand the need to move on. I wish you all the best in your grief and next stage.

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McChat · 04/03/2010 08:43

Thanks Jollster, I am so sorry you have to wait so long. I thought I would have a week to wait but when they called back to book me in they had on today. I am so scared something is going to go wrong, I struggle enough with smears so I think I will be in a lot of pain after this.
Have you had an ERPC before? If so can you tell me how it went.

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randomimposter · 04/03/2010 11:56

McChat my experience of the ERPC was that it was totally/absolutely fine - and I am exactly the same as you, avoid smears and any kind of procedures. (Even hesitated about going for an early scan in case they had to do it vaginally - which they did and actually it was fine too).

Physical recovery after the surgery was really quick - I felt fine the next day. The only thing I recall at all negatively was that I was crying when I come round in recovery after the surgery. Had been totally fine before the op, chatting to the theatre staff before conking out, and then there I was sobbing. Odd. Guess on some level I knew what had happened even though I wasn't conscious.

Don't think I'm going to get to ERPC this time. Have been bleeding really heavily since 6am (has abated a bit in the last ten mins, hence online now). Really unpleasant. Lots of clots and tissue and scary amounts of blood. ERPC every time for me please... (not that I actually want to go through any of this again of course!).

Hope you are doing ok. Keep us posted.
x

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McChat · 04/03/2010 18:01

Thats me home now, it all went really well. I was so ill this morning and dehydrated so it made me feel worse and they found it hard to get a line in my hand.
I normally wake up crying after anisthetic too but this time I woke up with the tube still in my throat! But I was very calm about it all.
I just feel very tired and hungry, my Husband has ordered pizza.

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Goodluckbear · 04/03/2010 18:08

Hey McChat - sorry you're going through this, just wanted to say hi . Rest up tonight (and the next couple of days) and get lots of TLC from your husband.

I found this forum invaluable after a similar chain of events for me at the start of Jan, there are a lot of lovely ladies out there for support, so keep coming back if you want to chat/get info and so forth.

Glad you are home now and that it went well.

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