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Anyone had ERPC?

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nappyaddict · 25/02/2010 20:14

I am nappyaddict's friend. She has a tendency to brush things under the carpet and pretend everything is OK when it isn't so I want to be as fully informed about this as possible as I know she will try to make it out to be nothing so I don't worry about her. I have told her she is not allowed to do this and I am going on MN to get the inside info Found out most stuff from searching old threads but there's a couple of other things I want to know.

Are you allowed to drink after an ERPC (wasn't sure if they give you antibiotics or anything) cos she does tend to drink when she's stressed, so will have to help her stay off the drink if that's not allowed.

If you have an ERPC due to retained products will you have to go to a follow up scan? Want to know this so I can make sure to find out when it is and take her.

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Alibobster · 25/02/2010 20:56

Hi I'm so sorry to hear about nappyaddict. I had an ERPC last year as I had a m/c but did not bleed at all. I had the procedure on the Wednesday and on the Saturday night I was at a party and had a few drinks. Physically I was fine but emotionally it is a traumatic time and drinking certainly won't help. There was no need for a follow up scan after the op. I hope Nappyaddict is ok and she's lucky to have suck a kind caring friend

liahgen66 · 25/02/2010 22:57

hiya,

I'm sorry she is going throught this. I have seen her asking questions, it's a shit time.

So, they will probably give her a one off shot of iab's when they give her the op, through the canula that she will already have inher hand.

Yes she'll be able to drink as normal but bear inmind she might feel a bit spaced out and woozy after a general, even though she feels fine at first, it tends to hit a day or 2 later.

Scan depends on hospital policy, I have had 3 erpc and no follow up scan, they say expect period 4-6 wks later.

Hope she is ok.

liahgen66 · 25/02/2010 22:57

iab's?? I mean ab's, (antibiotics)

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nappyaddict · 26/02/2010 08:55

Hi everyone,

It's me. I'm home now. DS' friend's mum took me to hospital early yesterday morning cos I was bleeding so much and looked after DS for me. I passed the baby fine (he was the tiniest little thing with proper arms and legs ) but there was some retained products which I tried to pass all day, but no luck so they gave me a D&C. Think it only took about 20 minutes and I was awake and asking for food 30 minutes after going to sleep They monitored me for about 3 hours and then let me go home. Was very strange walking out of maternity with no baby. Oddly I feel quite calm and peaceful about the whole thing.

I had no bleeding or pain afterwards which is good so I did have a glass of wine when I got home. I felt like I deserved it after all that. I am meant to be going out tonight with some friends (only 1 knows about the MMC). Going to rest as much as possible today and then see how I feel later. I would like to go but fully expect I may not feel up to it. However I would like to try and forget about it as much as I can and move on.

Oh and to my lovely friend I promise you there is no follow up scan (think it must depend on the area you live) and I had the antibiotics through my canula so I am allowed to drink tonight if I come

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liahgen66 · 26/02/2010 12:55

(((()))) nappy

don't care if it is un mn like.

xxkt1xx · 26/02/2010 13:08

hi nappy...so pleased u are home and healthy and that it wasnt too traumatic for you... hope your grieving process goes ok and dont let anyone tell you how to deal with this as everyone does it in their own way xx if you want to go out then do so... if u want to stay in and ignore the door with a take away then go for it... i went for the take away but im a greedy cow xx take care of yourself xxx

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nappyaddict · 26/02/2010 15:05

Feel a bit woozy from the GA but it's quite good - feels like being tipsy!

I know I shouldn't but been reading some threads on here and they mention having a pre-med to calm you and pessary to soften the cervix before the ERCP but I didn't have this and I don't know why? Does it depend on what hospital you go to do you think?

My friend says I was only under for 5-10 minutes - am shocked it only took that long.

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EccentricaGallumbits · 26/02/2010 15:10

i had one ages ago. was given a pre-med as was going a bit insane with panic and worry. I didn't have a pessary at all. i think because my cervix was already open. also didn't get a follow up scan.

sorry you are going through this.

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nappyaddict · 26/02/2010 16:16

Does anyone know how long how long the woozy effects last for?

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xxkt1xx · 26/02/2010 16:16

i dont know why hun...can u speak to consultant?? xxx maybe he can tell you xx maybe its a good thing you didnt as you said before that u felt ok after and maybe this would have made you feel worse??? not sure though xxxx

Unbuffy · 26/02/2010 19:29

Hi Nappy and lots of hugs. I suspect you are unlikely to have had pessaries as the aim of them is to open your cervix, and if you had already passed the majority of your 'retained products' (hideous expression) then it would already be open and 'softened'. They put a tube in to get stuff out (many appologies if tmi) and they don't want to scratch/damage a tight cervix.

It's something like that - it's been a month since i had erpc and i asked loads of questions because i wanted to know exactly what was going to happen to me.

Wooziness (i had 'comfortably numb' by pink floyd running through my head for hours) doesn't seem to last too long initially but do take it easy because it may hit you in the next day or so. I was wobbly for a couple of days and took as much bedrest as possible.

Also emotionally it might take a few day before it kicks in. Several ladies around here have said the same - i wasn't expecting to be completely devastated three days later as it all sank in. So be very gentle with yourself.

I did not have a pre med or a follow up scan btw.

liahgen66 · 26/02/2010 20:06

nappy the ladies expecting 1st dc's are more likely to need pessary, it is, as someone else said to soften cervix, no need for women who have had children

Woozy effects will last a few days ime.

Emotional effects come and go, most likely when you are least expecting it. Please look us up on the mc long haul thread, we all know exactly how you are feeling.

I am still waiting for my 1st period post erpc, 5 wks yesterday. They say 4-6 wks but it varies. You will be fertile before it arrives too so just so that you are aware.

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nappyaddict · 01/03/2010 01:19

OK so going out for a drink on Friday was not a good idea. My plans to just have a couple ended when I heard my ex was going to be out too. He went away to the lake district last week so I asked him on Friday when he was going to be back and he said Tuesday and asked what was up. I said it doesn't matter it can wait I'll speak to you Tuesday. However he must have thought I meant when was he coming back to work (we work together). If I'd have known he was likely to have been out Friday I would have definitely told him before hand.

Anyway our friend went and met him and he was asking her what was going on. She said she will tell you when she's ready it's not my place. He asked her if I was pregnant to which she said errrr not exactly, he said so she's had an abortion and again she said not exactly. Then he guessed it was a MC and apparently started welling up.

As soon as I found out my friend had gone to speak to him I went to find them but I was a sobbing uncontrollable wreck. I hit him and screamed at my friend to get him away from me. I feel bad about it now because it's not his fault this happened and he was trying to be supportive. My friend told him to leave me alone and he was sort of loitering around behind us whilst she tried to calm me down.

Then he pushed my friend out of the way and gave me a big hug and we were both crying. He took me home, put me to bed and waited til I fell asleep.

When I asked my friend what had happened the next day she said it might be best if I didn't know but I had to know.

I've apologised to my ex for being horrible to him and he said he understands and to talk to him whenever I need to and that he will give me a big cuddle on Tuesday so I think we are OK.

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xxkt1xx · 10/03/2010 17:28

hi i am just catching up with everyone on here... what a bad time to bump into him huh!! but glad he has given you some support as you need it...hope u are doing as good as can be expected and i hope to hear a happy story from you soon xx

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nappyaddict · 11/03/2010 21:52

He has been fab. My so called friend on the other hand needs to learn some tact. All she keeps going on about is how she knows what I'm going through (no, you don't - you had an abortion it's not the same!) She said to my ex "Cheer up it might never happen" and then yesterday asked him what age he thought he'd have kids at. When I walked away at this point she came to tell me she was so sorry she didn't think she was drunk and stoned. Fast forward 2 minutes she was going on about in front of everyone whilst me and my ex were staring at her to shut up and eventually my ex just said I think we should change topics now. He wanted to punch her in the face! I was feeling poorly the other day and she said I've no sympathy it's self inflicted thinking it was a hangover. I stormed off and said actually, you know it isn't. I am coming to the end of my tether with that girl!

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