dreams about babies

[sunflower34]

I had a missed miscarriage last week. It was my first pregnancy and I was 11 weeks when we found out. Had a fairly awful time in hospital, they kept getting the drugs wrong so I was in pain but nothing happened. After 26 hours of no food or water (they kept promising surgery which never happened) and me collapsing from blood loss, the miscarriage occurred and am now home 4 days after i was admitted. But I keep having nightmares about lost and missing babies, just wondered if this is normal? I really want them to stop but don't know how.

Oh poor poor you Big un-mumsnet like hug from me.

I had a mc last November (6 weeks so much earlier, and much kinder on my body than your horrid experience) and I did find that I was having all sorts of dreams involving babies - some distressing, some weird, some actually quite nice - for a few weeks after.

They passed. You have been through a lot, and probably will do for a while, both physically and emotionally, and if you are anything like me your dreams are bound to play out some of the turmoil that is going on inside.

The dreams did ease off for me eventually. I was kind to myself, I rested a lot, I tried to get back to normal slowly without pushing myself, and they eased.

Best of luck - take care of yourself x

sunflower - So sorry for your loss, and that horrible hospital experience you had. I can't believe that happened.
Having dreams like that is totally normal. I've been having strange baby dreams ever since my first mc. The other night I had a dream I had twins and one of them grew to be like 6 feet tall in a day, and I lost the other one, like literally misplaced her somewhere in a big house. I don't know. Weird stuff all the time.

I don't think there is anything we can do to stop the dreams, except that I find when I think about something before I fall asleep, I usually dream about it, so maybe try thinking about good things when you wander into sleep...

Sunflower, your post reminded me that I had vivid dreams about a baby the first week after - not lost though just being born - but they definitely went away in about a week for me, so much so that I'd forgotten it! I imagine the dreams are, like many of our dreams, your brain's way of trying to make sense of something that's happened to you.
You have had a particularly traumatic time and you need time and space to recover.