If you didn't know you were pregnant ...

[nappyaddict]

And therefore would not know how far along you would be can the hospital tell if it is a normal miscarriage or a missed miscarriage? With a missed miscarriage can they tell how long the baby has been dead apart from telling you at how many weeks the baby died and you knowing how many weeks you would be now?

I didnt know I was pregnant because of pcos.1st scan showed the baby was about 6-7 weeks but the dr that did my internal exam said my uterus felt about 12-13 weeks. 2nd scan at epu confirmed this.

So does your uterus continue to grow even though the baby has died? And the scan can say how many weeks your uterus looks and also how many weeks the baby looks?

yeah it must do so that is why it is a missed miscarriage, because the body hasn't recognised what has happened.

yes it does, I had a mmc just over 3 weeks ago and when I had a scan due to some spotting the sac was measuring at the dates I had which was 10 wks but my little bean had died at 8 wks

So the sac and the uterus continues to grow. Does anyone know about the placenta?

I'll message you on FB

are you ok?

lissie x

It doesn't help when my so called friend said "Well don't you think it's for the best, now you're not together any more and he's with someone else." No, not really, I don't.

i'd have slapped her!

I think she was somehow trying to be helpful. I did have to try very hard not to fly off the handle when I replied that No I didn't really think it was for the best.

how are you doing today?

nappy - sorry to hear you are having a hard time. In answer to your original question I will answer with my own current experience. I am supposed to be 11 weeks 2 days today, but throughout the last few weeks with several scans the pregnancy has measured about 2 weeks behind actual dates. Last scan 2 weeks ago (at 9 weeks from lmp) scan showed about between 6 and 7 weeks, but due to getting heartbeat they did not measure it. Today I went back (having had some spotting and cramping), and scan shows baby measuring 7weeks4 days, has definitely grown since last scan, as now has arm and limb buds, but the heartbeat is no longer present. I am not considered a missed miscarriage as I have started bleeding. The dating is incorrect, but has been all along, if I was truely two weeks behind I got a positive test before I concieved. So early scans are not accurate, and when the baby stops growing, there is no way of knowing how far along your were/are.

I hope this makes some sence, but I am still a bit shaken from this morining scans. I hope that things are ok with you?

I am much less emotional today lissie. Think that's A) because I haven't seen any babies today and B) didn't have to work with my ex

Argh I need to rant!

I was at work today and I felt a gush. It was like Niagra Falls! I wasn't worried cos the hospital said sometimes it can start up again or stay on and off for quite a while. It was nearly the end of my shift so I carried on working but wanted to leave at 5pm on the dot. I went over and said you're taking my tables over aren't you? (I'm a waitress) and she said yeah I'll come in a minute. So I said can you come now I'm not feeling well and I want to go home. So she says Well I have no sympathy it's self inflicted (I went out to a nightclub last night) so I said no actually it isn't and stormed off.

Can't decide if IWBU or not. I did go out last night so I suppose it would be fair to assume that's why I didn't feel too good. Despite that not being the reason, even if it was, I feel like I need a drink at the moment to escape reality with what a shitty month I've had TBH and she should understand that. But no she keeps going on at me about how I am drinking too much, it's not going to solve anything, that's why I'm down cos it's a depressant. No love I'm down cos I've just lost a 15 week old baby I didn't even know I was pregnant and I am grieving, cut me some slack!

my workplace has been exactly the same, i went back two weeks ago, and first day was horrendous. i spent most of my time in tears i couldn't even face anyone, im a care assistant, i hid in peoples rooms, making beds, crying away and they wouldn't send me home. i hate them now. i needed time and they didn't give it. so now im looking for another job.

you have every right to feel depressed, down, angry, full of hatred, and to need extra support. i wish i'd have been on here sooner, mumsnet has really helped me. and given me confidence that i can try again.

i'd stick it to the boss that was awkward with you. just tell them out right. and thank them for their support,or lack of it.