Threatened miscarriage

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Curlylox · 06/02/2010 17:12

Hello all....need to share and for someone to hold my hand and tell me it's going to be ok PLEASE as no one else knows about our news. Started to have very uncomfortable period like pains yesterday evening (am 10 weeks)and just didn't feel "right" and also had a small amount of spotting. Went to see out of hours Dr earlier today, possible threatened miscarriage or it could all be ok, am booked for scan first thing Monday morning. Pain is not sharp but uncomfortable, it comes and goes so not constant also sorry if tmi but when I do a wee and wipe myself it's slightly tinged with blood. Never experienced this before, am worried sick

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sallyandrewavery · 06/02/2010 18:29

Had exactly the same thing at 9 weeks adn baby was fine. He on knee now slobbering everywhere! Sometimes we bleed for no reason and sometimes we do miscarry. I had 4 before lucky this time. You will be OK just keep positive and remember that what will be will be and there is nothing you can do my love. Keep quiet and rest and dont worry too much about scan. Get some support and a cuddle.

noshouting · 06/02/2010 20:44

Hi Curlylox, I am in the same boat, just about 9 weeks and brown spotting started yesterday.
I feel very pregnant still, heartburn, nausea ect but have never bled before, this is DC5 so am feeling very much in limbo.
I will go to early pregnancy unit on Monday too and really don't know what I will or won't see.
I have been a real grump all day and DP can't predict how I will be from one minute to the next.
Hope we will get the news we want on Monday.

kissmummy · 06/02/2010 22:07

hi curlylox this could end happily, or it could end sadly, nobody here can know but at least you will get an answer on Monday. The very hardest part is waiting, and not knowing, what is happening. if the worst happens, you will deal with it, but the agony of not knowing is, well, unbearable. i've been there four times now. My friend had incredibly heavy bleeding throughout her first trimester and to be honest neither of us thought there was any hope whatsoever, and yet her little boy is now eight months old. So there is plenty of hope. Please, please make sure you have someone with you at the scan on Monday. There really is little in the world bleaker than receiving bad news from a scan on your own. And if it's good news it will be lovely to share it.

noshouting · 07/02/2010 09:59

Hi Curlylox how are things today?

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Curlylox · 07/02/2010 11:24

Thank you all for your kind words......but ended up at A&E very late last night with severe pain and heavy bleeding. I was examined and it was confirmed my cervix was open, sent home with codeine. Can't stop crying, can't really believe that it's happened and wondering why why why! Am 42 shortly to be 43 in 3 months, wanting our last baby (3rd) before menopause kicks in, couldn't quite believe that I fell pregnant after 1 month, especially as it took nearly a year to fall with DD 6 years ago. Worrying about what could have been and also it may not happen again (fall pregnant)

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noshouting · 07/02/2010 14:21

Oh curlylox I am so sad for you, I know nothing will make you feel better at the moment. Please look after yourself, it is such a shock. Got people arriving will post more later x

kissmummy · 07/02/2010 20:50

poor curly it's shit, isn't it. my mum had my little sister when she was 44 - no IVF or anything. you still have time.
sadly miscarriage becomes much more common later on because of egg quality, as i'm sure you know. allow yourself time to recover and then keep going if you can. x

sallyandrewavery · 08/02/2010 16:25

So sad for you curlylox, my thoughts are with you and take care of yourself. This may not be the end and keep positive. Lots of love to you both.

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Curlylox · 08/02/2010 18:50

Went hospital today for scan (was kind of still hoping but I knew I was kidding myself) they confirmed it was a complete miscarriage .....still having pain and bleeding. Took a swab to test for any infection, did bloods to test hcg levels and anothet blood test to do in 48 hours. They were all very lovely and sympathetic and put us in a separate room, however still had to pass all the happy couples waiting to have their routine scans and also Dr asked to me to take the MW's number in case I had anymore questions then I could call her. But as I walked into the room, I could hear a baby's hearbeat (someone was obviously being seen to behind the curtain) and that just made me go to pieces........Thank you all for taking the time to respond

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Bumperlicious · 08/02/2010 20:53

Oh curlylox, how awful for you. Hopefully you can try again soon. Just look after yourself in the meantime.

I'm going to the EPU tomorrow as have had spotting for a week. The not knowing what is going on is hideous.

I'm really sorry for what you have gone through and hope you have success with DC3.

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