I have just suffered what I hope will be my one and only miscarriage (20th Jan at 10 weeks) and I wanted to share something I hope may be helpful.
The day afterwards (natural miscarriage, still going on a bit) I realised that for me and my husband (second husband, only just married) this had struck at the very root of our relationship, ie our sexual bond.
He is a wonderful man, and the best at communicating I have ever known, but at this time he revealed himself as fundamentally, a MAN, and unable to respond in the way I wanted and needed him to. Only now, a week later, have I realised that it was like a bomb had gone off in our life, and he was stunned and numb and speechless.
By instinct, I literally and physically felt that we needed to reconnect sexually, and I won't be explicit except to say that a man can be reached emotionally, in a very specific physical way. And it worked, and it connected us again over what felt like an unbearable chasm.
And lest anyone thing one job does it all... and that I have been looking after him at my own expense, neither of those things are true, but I have realised that not only are one's women friends priceless at these times, but that it's an ongoing process of healing.
I just wanted to share that with people who may find it helpful, or at least I know will understand the pain on every level.
I send everyone who is going through this love and support.