Baby died at 11+2 will be induced Saturday - what to expect?

[BunnyBaby]

We found out that our baby died at 11+2 when I had the scan at 12 weeks exactly. Although they normally only offer waiting for miscarriage and erpc they agreed for me to be induced. My reasons are personal and I want to birth this child as I birthed my son. The nurses were very sensitive and I am so happy that they were willing to allow this. Normally they only induce when dating is 12 weeks+.

I was induced with my son and had a 72 hour back labour. The doctor said it would not be this long or as physically painful. I took the cervix ripening tablet yesterday and will be in at 11am on Saturday for inducement.

Can anyone who has been through this tell me how long it took start to finish and whether they had to stay in or have further treatment. I have no history of clotting problems, so hope this continues.

Thank you

Hi BunnyBaby, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I found out at 11wks 4dys that my baby had died. It's such a shock and the range of emotions you go through is unbelievable. I can't help with your question, I just wanted to reply so you didn't feel alone. I had an ERPC on Monday and am at home taking it easy... Good luck. The message board has helped me a lot, there's a lot of comfort here. Gx

Thanks MissiG I saw your post after I added mine. I feel the same as you in that it was so close to 12 weeks. And the sadness of seeing a perfect but 'sleeping' baby. We've named him/her Gabriel as Angels can be male or female. I'm just waiting for tomorrow and taking it a day at a time.

Hi bunnybaby, am so sorry to hear what you are having to go through.

I am not sure if i have just been through the same thing as you, as they didn't call it inducement.

I had a scan at 12 weeks as i had started to bleed slightly and was told my baby had died at around 8 weeks. I chose to wait and see if I would miscarry naturally but after going back for a scan 2 weeks later was told that I hadnt. I then had the option of the erpc or medical management, which involved pessaries to open the cervix to pass everything (sorry, am not good with finding the right words?). I chose to do this as they talked about risks of the erpc damaging your womb and affecting your fertility so did not want this.

I went in this monday, was given antibiotics, iron tablets and four pessaries to insert that day. They also gave me another 4 to use 48 hours later if nothing had happened. They also gave me lots of paracetomol and codeine and sent me home, asking me to come back in 3 weeks for a scan to check that everything is gone.

I put the pessaries in that evening and after an hour or so started to get cramps, just like bad period pains really. After a couple of hours I started to bleed quite heavily and pass a lot of clots. This continued throughout the night and I was probably in the loo about every hour, it wasnt too painful, but there was an awful lot of bleeding and large clots. I was really worried about seeing everything if you know what i mean, but to be honest, the clots where so big, i couldn't see anything. I was told to go to A&E if i was worried at all or the bleeding continued to be bad.

I still passed a few clots the next day but had no pain at all. I also felt very tired and slightly faint and dizzy if i got up too quickly. I have had all this week off work and am still bleeding now, 4 days later. Sometimes this is heavy, other times it is ok. Stil feel really tired as well.

Hope this may help you a bit, if you are going in to hospital to have this then hopefully you will be in best place. Its not pleasant at all, but i think reading other womens experiences helped me get through this. Its reassuring to know that you are not alone, although you know deep down that lots of women go through a miscarriage, it doesnt always make it any easier.

Take care, hope tomorrow goes as well as it can, and once again, am so sorry for your loss.
xxxxxx

Thanks BabyChicken I think it is medical management. As I was induced when my son was born it appears to be the same procedure, sorry if I've caused confusion. Glad to hear it went well for you. Am waiting to see if anyone had this and was in and out same day or whether they had to stay overnight.

Firstly, I'm very sorry for the loss of your baby. It must be a very difficult time for you.

I had a medically managed miscarriage at 12 weeks. The baby had died at 6 weeks but the sac had carried on growing. I went into hospital to have the second stage and to be honest, I was very pleased I was there and not at home when everything came out. For me, it was nothing like giving birth. It was not particularly painful, although I think for some people it can be. However, the blood loss was pretty alarming. I was out of hospital within the day.

I hope all goes as well as possible tomorrow.

Just to update anyone who wondered what the outcome was. Angel Baby DS2 was born at 4.40pm asleep. The first pessary was inserted at 1.58pm. He is absolutely perfect and it was painless. A pop for the waters, two gushes, and there he was. Placenta went when I had a wee. He is a boy, we had a look and kissed him goodbye. My DS1 was here visiting with my parents. DS2 entered the world while they stepped out as DH changed my pad. It was perfect and just what we wanted. When DS1 came in he said 'look, little angel baby'. I was hoping to go home today but passed some clots so the doctor removed left over tissue from the cervix. The registrar repeated this twice and I am now passing normal blood. This is more common in early pregnancy that the placenta does not come away as easily as it would at term. Feel very safe and this was the right option for me and my family. They will scan me again in the morning to check all is well. Thank you for all your lovely messages. X

So sorry for your loss BunnyBaby you are so very brave and sound very at peace with things. Just take time to grieve, thinking of you are your family.