Early scan showed no heartbeat and small for dates - what hope is there?

[asquashandasqueeeze]

Hello

I had a scan yesterday at what I thought to be 8 weeks, and was found (with an internal scan) to be only 6 weeks. No heartbeat could be found. I have to go back in 10 days to see if there is a heartbeat. Has anyone had a positive outcome from this?

I have worked out that I could have conceived on those dates (possibly).

I suppose what I am saying is, I don't think there is any hope, but I can't stop feeling slightly hopeful. I don't really want to feel hopeful as I know there is (in reality) little chance of there being a positive outcome.

my dh has been a bit crap about it all really, until today anyway, when he was lovely!

My next scan is next Monday. They wouldn't let me have one any earlier. My poor colleagues and children have to put up with me being stressed and distracted for another week.

Hello everyone
I had a private scan today which confirmed a missed miscarriage. Although this is what we were expecting I am still devastated.
I went for a private scan because although the staff at my local EPU were fantastic, there was no privacy there at all. After the last two scans when both times we received bad news, we had to sit in a crowded and very small waiting area whilst waiting to see the doctor. I was expecting the worst with this scan and couldn't face going through sitting there with a poker face in silence whilst really just needing to cry. So, the private clinic gave me a report (in a private room, with some time on our own) which I can then take in to the EPU and won't have to have another scan.
I called the EPU and am going in on Thursday morning to discuss options. This had now been going on for three weeks and I really just want it over with. I feel like my life has been on hold. I have been unable to work because I teach children road safety, my employers weren't happy in case I was taken ill whilst out with the kids. Understandable I suppose but this feeling of being in limbo has been awful.
Sorry for the long rambling post but this forum has been invaluable for support in the last few weeks.
I really feel for everyone else who is going through the same - the waiting is definitely the hardest part. Once you know, you can begin to deal with it even if it is the worst news.
x

shiny, I'm really sorry to hear your news and what you're going through. i arranged a private scan for the same reason as you - our EPU room is tiny and hideous. There was a side room, but that was full of other people crying!

I am still in limbo unfortunately, as due to some protocol the EPU won't confirm officially that I have had a mc (they were prepared to confirm it unofficially which doesn't really help me).

I hope your appointment on Thursday goes as well as can be expected, and you can start to get closure on this and move on xx

I went back to EPU yesterday and took the first tablet to start the medically managed miscarriage. I didn't want to wait any longer for either my body to do it's thing or for an ERPC. The next stage is the pessaries tomorrow afternoon at home and they said things should progress quite quickly after that. I only have to go back in if I feel I can't cope with the pain or bleeding. I'm feeling very apprehensive about the physical side of it but am starting to feel better now I know what is going on. The waiting was really hard.
The staff at the EPU were brilliant yesterday. Very gentle and kind and made sure that I understood all the options so that I could make an informed decision.
I'm sorry you're still waiting asquash.I do understand about the whole protocol thing but it does make it an even more painful and drawn out process. I hope that next week you can get some answers.

I'm going through the exact same thing. started bleeding last nite. doctos are unsure of my dats so i could anything between 4wk & 8wks. Had my scanns today and they said that they can see the sac and the outline of a baby (measured 4.3mm) but there was no heartbeat. Have to go back next friday for another scann. Feel so hopeless as there is nothing i can do

Just found today that ive definetly MC'd

Sorry for your loss Slummy Mummy. Thinking of you. Squash - All the best tomorrow with your scan, at least you will know then whichever way things are going. I have had random spotting all week so not holding up much hope for Tues scan but can't help not giving up completely. Here's hoping Feb is better than January has been for us all.
Hugs xxx

(I am squash) in the end I had a completely traumatic natural miscarriage yesterday - ended up in hospital with severe blood loss, on drips etc, and needing a transfusion (which I refused). am home now, but on strict orders to rest for 2-3 weeks and to go back in if bleeding gets heavy.

it was horrible - worst bleeding ever, and doctor ending up pulling "products of conception" out of me with forceps . at the moment, I think I will be traumatised by this for ever. Before it happened I wanted to try to get pg straight away, now I am too scared of this happening again.

oh squash / pollyanna - it sounds awful, I can completely understand why you feel traumatised after that experience. I hope you are offered some counselling and get all the support you need
xxx

That sounds awful - Hope you feel stronger soon, take it easy and take care of yourself. Make sure you do rest. I am off to EPAU tomorrow but have been bleeding since last night so not much hope here. Lets hope this is where both our luck changes now
Hugs

God pollyanna if there is anything I can do PM me I am around if you need anything.Really sorry you are going through this xx

Hi there. I am 7wks pg and had my 3rd ultrasound today. Technician said baby was only 5.5mm. 2 weeks ago it was 5mm. We also could not hear heartbeat but saw an irregular inconsistent heartbeat on u/s. I'm 44 y/o and am worried. My last HCG level was 2800 2 weeks ago. Any helpers please.