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kick in the guts yet again

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MegMum25 · 11/01/2010 19:40

Hi fellow recurrent miscarriers (sorr
y). Having a crap day today. Best friend has told me she is pg. It's fine but it is the second time her pregnancy has co-incided with one of my miscarriages. I knew she was pg both times coz of how she acted when I told her I was pregnant and then had miscarried. I am just gutted that while she is experiencing joy I am starting again and just had another loss. I know I am so so fortunate to have my DD and that hopefully I will get to have another successful pregnancy one day but she is just so self assured and confident that her story will have a hapy ending I am just so envious of that confidence. my DH says I am being negative and uncharitable but I juts want to ball tonight and smoke about a million cigarettes and be generally overdramatic and indulgent. None of my 'normal' friends remotely get it. Sorry to whinge, just wish I wasn;t in this position for the fifth time. Any thoughts/ pearls of wisdom?

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giraffesCantWalkInSnow · 11/01/2010 21:00

Oh Meg am so sorry, I totally get what you mean Its so difficult to watch a friend go through pregnancy and have a healthy baby, when its all you want. If I had a magic anser I would tell you. Sadly I don't. I came on here to post that I was finding it hard after having best friends dd for the day, shes almost 5 months. Been struggling since I found out she was pregnant over a year ago now.

Here to listen if you want to vent, sometimes that helps.

andrea10 · 12/01/2010 13:56

Poor you Meg. Kick in the guts is a pretty good description. I miscarried a few months ago and am surrounded by constant news of friends' new babies on their way. Also just made redundant. Great. No answer for you, just to say that you're not alone, and I completely understand that the last thing you feel is charitable. It's not fair. Keep going, keep trying to count your blessings, the story will end well. Fags, wine, chocolate hobnobs, slushy films. They definitely work. Apparently exercise does too but I haven't got that far yet. x

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