very down - i should be hopeful

[skinsl]

Hosp appt yesterday confirmed all tests were fine, and they can't find any reason for the miscarriages. Doctor was lovely, even saying when I next conceive he will see me early on. but somehow I just feel like crying.
I don't think I want to try again and be disappointed again. need some positivity please!

Hello, sorry that you have been through this. I have had 2 x m/c. I also have 2 x ds and thinking of trying for a third. In the back of my mind I do think what if I have another m/c but then I look at my DS and know that it is worth the risk.

Be positive - you can get pregant and they have said nothing is wrong with you. It was natures way of saying this isn't quite right lets stop this now and give you another chance.

After both my m/c I would burst into tears at least once a day for weeks - always on my own - and just let go. Always felt better after a good weep.

Good luck

Hello, sorry that you have been through this. I have had 2 x m/c. I also have 2 x ds and thinking of trying for a third. In the back of my mind I do think what if I have another m/c but then I look at my DS and know that it is worth the risk.

Be positive - you can get pregant and they have said nothing is wrong with you. It was natures way of saying this isn't quite right lets stop this now and give you another chance.

After both my m/c I would burst into tears at least once a day for weeks - always on my own - and just let go. Always felt better after a good weep.

Good luck

thanks, bit of a cry is good. I have one DS, so very lucky, especially as he just caught me crying and said "love you mummy"
love your name btw. my favourite book!

The film with Gregory Peck is amazing too. If I do have another baby and it is a girl I plan on calling her Jem. (V positive thinking there!!!)

DSs are fantatic - so v loving, Archie, who is four comes into bed every morning for a cuddle and to talk about our plans for the day. V Happy today as his school closed...again.

You are right we are v lucky to have our DS, two out of my five closest girlfriends have had to take IVF and only one had succeeded so far.

Meant to say after my first m/c had one period then fell pregnant with Archie - so no need to hand around in my opinion

hi skinsl tell me your story? i think i've missed an original post where you say how many MCs you've had etc? Like you i have one DS. He is now 2.5 years old. Since him i have had four miscarriages. Like you i find it hard to be positive about trying again sometimes. we've had basic tests which showed nothing. Just been for private tests but won't get the results for ages. i really, really hope they show something treatable.

Hi kissmummy
Just had the 2 m/c, both really early 5 and 6 weeks. DS is 2.2 Was very lucky that nice GP referred me for tests, but am 40 soon so need to get a move on, and I had a very traumatic birth with DS so i was worried there was some damage.
Anyway tests all fine, I think like you I was hoping for something treatable, so that would take the worry away.
I am so sorry you have had 4, and they sound a lot worse than mine. how long until your test results?

Hi skinsl and kissmummy
Sorry you are both having such a horrible time. Just thought I would post with my story to give you some hope. I had one DD then three m/c at 8,11 and 9 weeks. I think I had another one at 5 weeks but had not had pregnancy confirmed at GPs so it didn't count, IYSWIM. I couldn't have tests because the one at 11 weeks was a partial molar pregnancy so there was an explanation. But I did have lovely GP and lots of support at the EPAU. They told me that early m/c after you have had a healthy baby are most likely to be down to extreme bad luck, combined with age in my case as I was in my late 30s. This was no comfort at all at the time and I really wanted them to say, "you have x, take this treatment and you will have your baby". After a lot of soul searching we decided to try again and the result was our lovely DS. It was not an easy pregnancy, lots of bleeding and they think it was a twin pregnancy and that I lost one early on. However, it was all worth it and even now I still can't quite believe he is here. Anyway, I'm not sure if it helps to hear all this but I will never forget what a horrible time we had. Have you read Lesley Regan's book on miscarriage, I found it really helpful?

I really hope that things work out well for you. I am sure that you can both go on to have a healthy baby in the future,

thank you nicola, always nice to hear positive stories!