Physical Recovery after M/C ?

[MayfairMummy]

Anyone got experience of how their body settled down after m/c with lots of blood loss?

I know i'm feeling sorry for myself at the moment (not pregnant again this month), and not seeing things as clearly as they could be, but I've had the good fortune to (previously) fall pregnant pretty quickly, and this time around I'm not pregnant yet, which i'm generally kind of ok with, but DP wants me to be already, and is kind of getting grumpy at me that i'm not (it's my fault; i'm drinkign too much coffee, or not exercising enough, or whatever he decides is my fault).

BUT, I'm 37, I had a series of close pregnancies... m/c at 12 weeks, then pregnant again 3 months later (DS now 14mo), then pregnant again 7 months after birth, but m/c at 12 weeks, but this time lost 3 litres of blood with the m/c (had blood transfusion with emergencey d&C) so I think my body has had a bit of a beating. My cycles are swinging a lot (last one 32 days, this one 27 days), not sure if i'm ovulating as my test kit doesn't show it up at all (though have before this last m/c), just really don't know what to expect about my body settling down and being ready to fall pregnant (and hopefully hold) again. I know it's only been since August m/c, but it still feels like a long time, and I don't know what to expect this time around. Anyone know / have experience?

no experience but bumping for you, sounds like you haven't been having an easy time, am very sorry. i do think it's likely that it would take a while after that sort of blood loss to get back 100% to normal. presume you've talked to your gp about it?

and i think your dp sounds a bit out of order, tbh.

I am sorry to hear of your experiences, it must be very upsetting and frustrating for you both

however, I think the twuntish comments from your DH are likely to be counterproductive

You poor thing, what a ride you've had. Plus your DP is not being terribly helpful with those comments. He should be more careful of your feelings.
And crikey 3 litres would be a lot of blood to lose, that's over half the blood in your system!?! I was transfused 3 units after my DS (now 14mo) was born and even though I felt instantly better with it, it does take it out of you. Do you think you may be anaemic? Could your GP check you over, just to reassure you?
What day are you starting testing with the ov sticks? The month I got pregnant with my DS, I had thought I hadn't ovulated, but clearly I hadn't started testing early enough.
Good luck, I am sure you will get there soon.

yes, check anaemia and also underactive thyroid

have you consulted any doctors on this, MM ?

if your cycle is so erratic it sounds like it hasn't really settled down yet

just keep having sex every other day all through your cycle, and then you will be sure not to miss ovulation when it occurs

I really, really wish you all the luck in the world

Thanks so much, Ladies, feeling much better about it all today (even without all the problems, the ave preg takes 6 months for someone under 35, and i'm 37, so I can't complain at all!). Confronted DP with it all too, and he was a lot less grumpy about it too, which was good; he wanted 6 littl'uns, and i'm just too old for that; i think he was hoping we could get out a few more a bit quicker...

Haven't bothered with Dr checks at this end; not too happy with the health care system in this part of the world at the moment. On the one hand, they saved my life by stopping the bleeding and getting the blood back in; on the other hand, I lost at least half of the blood in front of them while they stood around and didn't look/listen to me. I know when your average person says they're losing (and have lost) a lot of blood, they're overestimating (a little blood goes a long way), but I've got some medical background, and I was trying to be realistic. If any one of the four drs at A&E had just spoken to the last one they would have realised. It was only after I passed out for the 4th time and didn't wake up again that they decided that maybe I really did need that d&c quite quickly. Argh. anyway, that's my rant over (sorry), but I'm trying to do things out of the hospital/gp system if I can (DS was born at home; i guess i'm a bit of a hippy that way... all from someone who was once at uni studying to be a dr!).

will look into anaemia and underactive thyroid tho. The Anaemia is obvious, but is the underactive thyroid just a general background thing, or can this be brought on by other issues?

ps. have been using ov sticks almost all month! thank god they're so cheap on ebay :-)

I threw in the underactive thyroid because that was discovered in myself when I had initially problems conceiving, erratic cycles and 2 mc's in a row

I was found to be underactive even though I was symptom-free, and not the usual physical "type" ie. overweight, heavy periods, depression

I was slim, had scanty/no periods and the only reson I felt down was because I couldn't have a baby !

worth a check, anyway, is surprisingly common

Thanks... I'll look into it.