Back to work

[Malotkins]

Morning ladies,

Happy new year.

I'm due to go back to work tomorrow after the Christmas holidays but I'm dreading it. I had an ERPC on Weds and although physically I am ok the thought of walking in to the office and hearing all of the happy Christmas stories fills me with dread. Some people guessed I was pregnant as I wasn't drinking at the Christmas party so I'm going to have to tell them what happened. On one hand it would be good to just get back to normal but the problem is I'm not that busy at work at the moment so my mind will just be wondering all day. But on the other I just want to be able to slip back in and not have to even mention Christmas which will be impossible for a few days at least. I have no idea how I am going to react and I really don't want to have a melt down. If I hide behind my screen they will think I am just being moody. I also have to cancel my 12 weeks scan and mid wife appt which all arrived the day I had the ERPC. What to do, what to do? I have thinking about this non-stop since Thursday. I do have a very understanding boss though.

Hi there so sorry for your loss.
Why don't you sit down with those who know and tell them whats happened and then tell them what you would like or not like from them to help you get through this. That way they will know how to treat you and you won't need to keep worrying about it. I really hope this is of some help. Having just had my 4th mc i know how it feels when you don't want people to act a certain way. My problem was all the mums up the school knowing i had mc and when i went back to taking the kids to school i got constant questions of how am i and so forth. All the best x

Sorry for your loss. I felt the same when I had to go back to work. The people closest to me had already said to those who knew I was pregnant that I had miscarried. When I went back I was so surprised at how many women said to me they had been through the same. Most of them said "you know where I am if you need to talk". And it was actually quite nice to get back into work again and think of something else for a while. There was moments when I felt upset but then I just had a little cry in the toilet or talked to someone. Everyone was really understanding. The first days are always hard but you will get through it. Of course it is upsetting and really hard but with time things get a little bit easier. I hope it goes ok and all the best for the future.

Hi

I decided not to go in today and e-mailed my boss last night who was very understanding. Today should have been my first official day of maternity leave (from previous mc) so it was always going to be hard.

Hannah x