I haven't got anyone to talk to as I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant, but I went to A&E on Tuesday because I had a tiny, tiny bit of blood (kind of brown, like the end of a period) and they ended up doing a scan just to make sure it was ok, and I really thought it would be fine, but she said that the baby had stopped growing after 6 weeks. I'm supposed to be 9 weeks today. So I have to go back next Wednesday and have the scan again and then she said I could have a D&C (?) but that I might properly miscarry before then anyway.
I was so excited, it was our first time trying and I was really looking forward to telling my family (it's my Nan's birthday soon so I was going to tell them then, I'd have been 13 weeks then, she'd have been really pleased as it would be a great-grandchild!). I know everyone already suspects, as I wasn't drinking at Christmas, and people keep saying "can we expect an announcement soon?" in that kind of "we know you're pregnant really" way (actually, some people have just been directly asking!). I'm just hiding from everyone now because I can't bear to be asked, because I suppose technically I am pregnant but not for much longer.
Anyway, I'm sorry this is a really long thing, I feel like I've got loads I want to say and no-one to say it too (obviously, there's my husband, but I don't want to go on and on about it as I know he's trying to be brave and whatnot). I was just wondering if anyone can tell me about how they had a missed miscarriage and then later on got pregnant and had a healthy baby, as I think if I thought that this was just one of those things and that I could be a bit more confident that I will get pregnant again and next time it will work out, then I'd have something a bit more positive to think about. Rather than just feeling like it's all gone wrong and I'll never have a baby.
This is probably my worst New Year's Eve ever!!
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Goodluckbear · 31/12/2009 10:37
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