Is it normal to worry about every little thing?

[giraffesCanDanceAtHogmanay]

I did this when my best friend was pregnant I worried about everything she said, every time she was admitted to hosp I went up to see her and would come out crying as would panic that she would lose her dd. I had it all planned in my head how I would try to comfort her if it hapened. Its like I had to prepare myself.

Now today I found myself doing it again - its the way she puts her to sleep it really really freaks me out. I can't stop worrying about this, I need to calm down. I just want to make sure nothing happens to her. I suppose as well I have so many friends I have met from SANDS etc who have lost their young babies through SIDS. I think when you know all the things that can happen you worry more.

Anyone else like this? Am I mad?!

Not mad, I'm always scared for friends / relatives etc when they are pg and worry about all sorts of things for them. It's because I never want them to understand what DH and I have been through these last 5 years, because if they DID understand, then they would have had a similar experience and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Really makes me wobbly and worried when friends announce before 12 weeks (their choice and of course we crack open the bubbles and smile and congratulate and are genuinely pleased and happy for them) but that's a bit ironic as 2/3 mcs have been post 12 weeks for us

With the SIDs thing we were so worried about anything happening to DS when he finally arrived that we bought a breathing monitor that went EVERYWHERE with us. PILs thought we were a bit mad excessive when we took it abroad after DS was over 2 and we have only stopped using it these last few weeks when DS went into a big bed (he's going to be 3 soon...) It doesn't work with the thick mattress, else I think it would still be getting used

I think when you have seen the less glossy side of pg and childbirth you tend to stop taking things for granted, we certainly have.

It does feel a bit bonkers sometimes tho doesn't it

Thanks for reply. Yes its like I see all these worries in things that no one else does. I was with her a few times in hosp and the Dr would be asking questions and I would know exactly what issues/complications they would be trying to rule out, where as she didn't know. I've read up on so much stuff but the downside to that is I know too much in some ways.

Oh girraffes - I know exactly what you mean, sometimes ignorance can be bliss. The internet is a strangely hypnotic place and sometimes knowledge can go too far, although I was much better 'prepared' for my 2nd LMC (it still hurts like anything, despite me being a very lucky girl) because I at least didn't spend the whole time going 'd'ooh I never even KNEW this was a physical possability, stoopid me'

You sound like a wonderful friend to help your friend out at the hospital, even though you knew you'd find it hard.