So what happens now?

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Back story> end of November I got what I thought was my period a week earlier than I was expecting, after showing signs of conception (big tits basically ). I figured I maybe had fertilisation but the implantation had gone wrong, so put it down to there.

Last week Wednesday I started bleeding again. Thought it was my period starting again, but very very early. For some reason I did a pregnancy test and it came back positive. Went to the emergency gynae clinic at the hospital and they took a blood test. Then had another one done today. My HCG levels were low and they've fallen on this second test. The nurse told me to do a pregnancy test in a week's time and call them back with the result.

So, I guess I have had/am having a miscarriage. But I don't know what happens now and was too upset to ask the nurse on the phone. I've had very light bleeding since Wednesday (one pad a day would have caught it all) and no pain. Am I going to start bleeding a lot, or did I already do that with my 'period' 2 weeks ago?

And what happens after this? How long does it take for my body to get back to ovulating? I really don't know what to expect at all!

After 6 early miscarriages myself, all I can say is that every miscarriage is different! No-one can tell you what to expect as there are a range of things that can happen.

Some clues as to what to expect might be in how fast your hcg levels were falling, were they halving in 48 hours? If so you can approximately calculate at what point they will reach zero (and you should get a negative test). I found with 3 of my miscarriages that I had a period type bleed the day my pregnancy tests became negative. I then went on to ovulate two weeks later. However with another of my m/c I had a bleed but the levels were only reducing very slowly and it too another month for my levels to reach zero and for another bleed to occur, with this one ovulation was delayed by a couple of days, but nothing huge. However with other women I know that ovulation can be delayed by a number of weeks.

Only one of my miscarriages has been painful, like a painful period more than anything. My other miscarriages were painless and some were surprisingly light blood flow. But again other people have horrendous bleeding and pain.

So really no one can tell you what to expect, but be prepared for anything! I hope that this helps despite not giving you any definite things to expect.

Thanks rainbowdays. I've stopped bleeding now. Not sure how much my hormones are falling, I don't think they were halving but they had dropped. The clinic said to wait a week to test so I guess they expect them to be at a negative by then.

It feels really weird. This enormous thing has happened to me and I'm just carrying on at work as normal. I'm not sure how I'm meant to feel. If I hadn't done a test I would never have even realised I was pregnant and just thought my cycle had been a bit odd. So I don't know how upset to be.

Hi there, it is weird isnt it. Kinda finding out 2 major pieces of information so close together.
Ive had 5 mcs myself, last one last week

I presume that you dont have any symptoms of pregnancy now? for me they stopped suddenly.
Once the bleeding stops, things quickly return to normal. You just wait for your period to come, and for your cycle to return to normal.
Hormones really are neither here nor there, they will drop to zero, for me there is no point in monitoring them, they just tell me what i already know, and needles are involved.
Emotionally, you have lost a baby. Even so early on, you were pregnant. This is the bit that is tricky to get your head round. You hardly had the chance to get used to it before it was taken away from you. This carries a sense of loss. For this reason you may need to grieve, its normal.
As the other lady said, its very personal. Me, i just want to get back to normal as soon as possible, i cant be bothered any more to be depressed or to be down for any length of time.
Its up to you, be kind to yourself, if you want to cry do it love. Its an awful thing that has happened to you.