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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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Do any of you with prevous mcs think you can't carry one sex?

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keevamum · 03/12/2009 17:42

Not sure that my thread title makes sense. I have just had my third mc. I had my eldest dd 9 years ago with no pregnancy problems. Then 4 years later start trying for another, then have 2 mcs before my youngest dd now 3 was born. I did suffer with some mild bleeding in my pregnancy. I have just had my third mc in the last week and my gut instinct is telling me that it was a boy as were the two other mcs and I feel as if my body just can't carry boys to term. What does anyone else think? Has anyone thought the same or had any tests done which seem to confirm this? Would love to know as I may just be clutching at straws but that is what my instinct is telling me.

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bb99 · 03/12/2009 19:22

First sorry for your losses, hope you are getting the support and help that suites you. xx

Interesting idea...not clever enough to have the answer, sorry. Also apologies in advance for any inadvertant offense - I can get a bit too clinical (my way of trying to cope in general)

Aren't boys less robust in general? (In the wider world of nature and animals they seem more likely not to make it through a full gestation, biologist friend quoted some study on deer to me, don't know what it was, when I was asking the same questions - nature says why invest your time/energy into producing offspring that may not be really big and strong and therefore not able to produce offspring IYSWIM, females don't generally have to fight in order to get to produce more offspring) Don't know if this would count for humans as we have strange reproductive cycles compared to most other creatures, being able to get pg at anytime of the year etc etc...

But one of my friends only seemed to suffer from pre-eclampsia with her daughters - again don't know why, she was fine with her son and her mum suffered pre-eclampsia quite badly when she carried her daughters.

Can't quote from personal xp as have lost both and have carried both to term .

Anything can happen though in RL. Have you had the chance to have any kinds of tests/investigations?

hocuspontas · 03/12/2009 19:28

20 years ago my doctor suggested this after I miscarried for the 3rd time but he didn't go into any scientific reasons. I went on to have 3 girls. I had progesterone injections with each so can't say if it was my lack of progesterone or carrying boys that resulted in the mcs.

Not much help - sorry!

thisisyesterday · 03/12/2009 19:29

i haven't had this, but i know someone online who thought the same thing.

she has had something like 8 miscarriages, and definitely felt "different" with those, than with her 2 successful pregnancies, both of which were with girls.

i do believe she had looked into it, and was going to maybe have tests done before she fell pregnant with her youngest daughter, not sure if she is still planning on doing that though

cat64 · 03/12/2009 19:31

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annie51 · 03/12/2009 22:43

I've thought the same but get mixed views from the medical profession on this. From what I've been told there is no medical evidence to support the theory.
T've had mc1 then 2 dd's then another 5 mc's.

DrNortherner · 03/12/2009 23:01

My aunt has 3 boys but had 4 mc's - all of which she beleived were girls.

thatsnotmymonster · 03/12/2009 23:08

I think it could happen.

I know someone who has had several mcs and she knows she is a carrier of a genetic disorder . Her body is rejecting all the 'unhealthy' foetuses- she has had tests done to show that this is the case.

She has had one healthy dd and is pg with her 2nd dc.

misspopov · 03/12/2009 23:09

Hi I'm really sorry to hear of your losses and hope that you are getting the support you need. I have two DDs both five years apart and then had 3 miscarriages which I was convinced were boys but had no real evidence to back this up. I too was convinced that I couldn't carry boys. Then last year I became pregnant with DC3 which I was sure I would lose at some stage. However I had a little boy who is now 6 months old and asleep in the cot next to me. I was so shocked when he was born and they told me he was a boy as I was so sure that I could only carry girls. I think when we loose our babies it is so cruel and difficult to understand that we look for theories to explain I know this was the case for me. This would be a simple explanation if it were true and of course my DS could be the exception to the rule. I totally understand what you are going through and my lost little ones will always be with me in some way. Please make sure you get the help and support you need.

scotlass · 03/12/2009 23:13

my MIL tactfully said this to me when I had my 3rd mc - perhaps you can't carry boys. I have an older DD. I couldn't find anything medical to support the theory.

However I then went on to have a 4th successfull pg and it has given me my gorgeous DS. So no I don't agree, I felt different in all 5 pgs and couldn't tell if they were boy/girl.

I'm sorry for your losses, I hope you are taking care of yourself x

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keevamum · 04/12/2009 14:13

Thanks for all the kind messages and responses. I am having an ERPC on Monday and will mention my theory to my doctor but doubt I will ever really know. Am just so devastated at the moment and to make thing worse my body still feels pregnant so still had morning sickness even though my lo has died in utero.

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nickschick · 04/12/2009 14:19

This thread has made me feel so much better in a weird way.

I have 3 dc and 6 years ago had what at first we assumed was a late v heavy period but transpired differently and ive always convinced myself that was my one chance at having a dd(i have had 3 c sections and another planned baby would be very bad for me health wise)- but after reading this thread i feel comforted knowing its most likely it was a boy -no less of a loss though .

lucykate · 04/12/2009 14:22

i do think it's possible. i had a terrible pregnancy with dd, bled till 23 weeks plus all kinds of other difficulties. then i had 2 miscarriages, ds was my only trouble free pregnancy. my mum is convinced i can't carry girls, and that dd is a bit of a miracle, she reckons the 2 i lost were girls too.

malung · 05/12/2009 19:31

Yes, I do feel from personal experience that for some women it is more difficult to carry one or other sex.
I and my sisters are a family of predominately 4 generations of girls. There have been many miscarriages, including myself who have had 6, one of whom was definitely a boy..

I am surprised that there is not any research into this as I am sure I cannot be the only family to suffer.

juuule · 06/12/2009 21:01

I had ds, m/c then ds. Then I had a dd followed by another ds. Then 2 m/c.

At this point I believed that my dd was a fluke and that it was daughters that I had trouble carrying.
If I had called it a day at that point that is what I would have continued to believe and probably told anyone who asked.

However, I went on to have 5 more dd and 5 more m/cs. So that knocked my theory on it's head.

Perhaps it is true for some but it wasn't for me.

kay1980 · 08/12/2009 11:33

I've had people say to me that perhaps I can't carry boys. I had my DD 9 years ago with no problems at all but I had 2 MC's one in 2005 and then one in March this year. I am now 26 weeks pregnant with my DD and so far had no problems at all. I don't think we'll ever know if this theory is correct but it is an interesting one although the thought of not being able to have a little boy does worry me slightly.

pinky78 · 17/12/2009 09:30

hi i know this thread was over week ago but just thought id put my 2pence worth in lol i have had 26mc and i went to a fortune teller although i dont usually believe in them he did say something very intresting he asked me 2 think of a question and my question was will i ever have successful pregnancy and he drew a card with aload of blue stones on it and asked me whether id had a lot of terminations or miscarriages bearing in mind he had never met me before or new my backround or question he said it was all boys on hearing this it did freak me out but i do believe it because how else would he know dont get me wrong all the other things he said was crap lol but he has told another family member she was pregnant and the baby was gonna be fine she'd had 7 mc and he was right sorry goin of point now anyway i do believe in same sex mc good luck 2 u all xxxxx

pinky78 · 17/12/2009 09:33

sorry forgot 2 say i dont believe that all 26 mcs could of been boys though surely thats impossiablexx

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keevamum · 17/12/2009 20:58

God Pinky that is terrible...26How on earth do you get over that? Do you have any children? Did you have tests done?

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