3rd MC but no tests given what should I ask for?

[slimyak]

Hi All

Firstly can I say what a comfort it is to know I'm not alone in what has happened although I wish the story was different for everyone.

Last week I had a medically managed missed miscarriage after our baby stopped developing at 12 weeks. Before I had my DD (2.5years) I had 2 other spontanious miscarriages at 9 and 7 weeks.

Because DD was an uncomplicated preg and just because she exists my consultant said there is no point in doing any tests on why MC occurred and I have simply gone from unlucky to very unlucky.

I know I am blessed with having my DD but I never wanted her to be an only child. I don't know whether it's part of my grieving or justified that I should feel angry at being labelled very unlucky. And I know it's still very early days but I'm not sure if I can go through trying again armed only with the information that my luck might change.

For those of you who have been though this what would you ask for? Did you ask and did it get you anywhere? And does knowing really help?

I am finishing my 4th miscarriage!! I was at first(after 3)sent to see a fertility doctor.Wasnt really sure bcuz I had NO problem getting pregnant just staying pregnant. ANyhow, they did some workup to see if they could find the problem. They did a chromosone test on me and my husband to make sure we had the right amount of chromosones, a saline ultrasound on me to look at my uterus and cervix, and some blood clotting blood work. These all came out normal so they came up with the idea that I probably had low progestorone so i was put on a supplement with this 4th miscarriage that apparently didnt work. Anyhow I was just told by my doctor to go see a maternal fetal conception counselor, it is someone who SPECIALIZES in KEEPING you pregnant and deals with people who have a history of recurrent miscarriages! Which is exactly what I need!!! I dont know why I was never mentioned this before but I am definetly making an appointment! Just wanted to tell you all this before you waste time/money at someone who may not be able to help and to tell you if I wouldve known about someone specializing in this I wouldve went straight to them first.I hope this helps you out and sorry for your losses as well

You could look at these leaflets from MC Association and RCOG and have a chat to the docs.

Here

And here

Hi Slimyak, sorry for your losses. Your consultant is being a bit blase, having a DD doesn't mean that everything is OK (I am in a similar position, though had three consecutive miscarriages before being referred, and no doctors have ever said anything like that to me) - fertility can change over time and secondary infertility / recurrent miscarriage can happen.

Perhaps it'd be worth speaking to your GP about being referred somewhere else for recurrent miscarriage testing (though they are likely to class yours as "sporadic" as you had your DD in between, so may not refer you on the NHS).

Kilyers - not heard of that kind of specialist, please could you describe further and give examples?

So sorry you had to go through that again.
From my experience and from other posts here, GP is usually more sympathetic and should be able to get you a referral.
I was very lucky and got sent for tests after 2 miscarriages, but I thought the usual was 3. Dreadful I know but apparently the amount of tests that come back with an all clear is quite high and so I think they try and put you off from having tests.
Put your foot down with your GP and fingers crossed you get some answers.
good luck
x

I was told that it wasn't uncommon to have 2 m/c in row and that's why someone is only usually referred for testing after 3 consecutive m/c.

Hard as it may sound, it could just be bad luck.
So sorry to hear you are going through this. I know how difficult it is.

Thanks guys

I will have a chat to my GP who has always been very supportive. Not sure if I want tests as they can'y give me what I really want which is a cast iron guarentee that next time everything will be fine.