Miscarriage or not? (long and rambling)

[MissWooWoo]

Hi

hoping to hear from others who have had similar experience because I don't know what the hell is going on! ...

On saturday evening (at 6+2)I started bleeding, bright red blood, only on wiping at first but increasing in flow over the evening, enough to wear a pad, mild cramps - nothing major.

Sunday morning,still bleeding, mild cramps, passed (painlessly) what I thought was a not very well developed embryo, kept this (sorry if tmi) and went to the EPU. Senior nurse said I had passed "pregnancy tissue". Internal scan dated me at approx 5 and a half wks with sac present, "something inside but too small to see", no heartbeat, cervix closed. "was I sure I had my dates right? could I be less pregnant than I thought?". Erm no, pretty regular at either 28/29 days, had sex once in this cycle on day 15. To be about 5 a half wks sperm would have had to survive inside for a week. This would lead to the conclusion then that everything had stopped at 5 weeks and that the bleeding and passing of tissue was my body getting ready to have a miscarriage. I have a follow up scan booked for monday (8 days after 1st). Consultant said that there may be a "glimer of hope" but sent home to "prepare for the worst". Bleeding continued with very mild cramps, passed a few clots but nothing to make me whince even (consultant said that if I passed the sac I'd "know about it")

In my own mind I feel that the baby is gone, barely a symptom before the bleeding and now nothing other than a little tiredness. BUT this is what is confusing me, the flow has gradually decreased (only needed panty liner yeterday really), no cramps since monday, hardly any blood today. Apart from a mild headache I feel fine.

So, I guess my question is how come I have stopped bleeding if Im going to have a miscarriage? has anyone else had bleeding/cramps/clots which dried up only to lead to miscarriage later? Am I going to miscarry/have I already miscarried without knowing it. Is there any chance that the baby is still there but was just not growing at the right rate and isn't that bad anyhow?.

Of course I have the scan on Monday and although I'm pretty sure everything has stopped I'm going crazy with the wait. Do some miscarriages go through a stop/start process?

Any advice would be great

I'm in a really similar situation only I'm at 5 weeks and had increasing amounts of bleeding but scan yesterday showed sac still present. I have to wait 2 weeks to find out so i know what you mean about going crazy with waiting.

The doctor said to me that only nature knows what is going to happen and that no clincian can confirm mc or not until a scan at 7 weeks to see if there is a heart beat.

Hope the scan on monday brings good news for you.

Twins perhaps and you passed one?

Hi, i just thought id respond to you as i had a similar situation. On friday i started bleeding only for it to last about 24hours and then stop completely. On monday i started bleeding again, this time it was a lot heavier and i have had terrible stomach cramps. Ive been permantly dosed up on a combination of paracetamol and ibuprofen as ive found it that uncomfortable, ive got 2 children and can only describe the pain to that of labour pains.
I havnt knowingly passed the 'sac' as of yet but im still bleeding heavily, after talking to some ladies on here it doesnt always seem possible that your aware of the sac passing in early misscarriage ( i asked as the thought of this terrified me!!)
I was 6weeks aswell, i had my hormone levels retested today and everything seems to be happening naturally, my doctor offered me cocodamol for the pain and said all i can do is to rest. I know they said on examination that my cervix is open so im pretty sure its a good sign that yours is still closed. Doctor did another pregnancy test today which is still showing positive its like torture sitting there whilst she tests a stick which shows you as being pregnant but your actually not!!
How are you feeling emotionally? One minute im fine and then the next i break down, i feel like i cant deal with the emotional side of it until i physically feel well again as the pain is a constant reminder.
Hope your ok, feel free to ramble on i feel like this place is a much nicer place than real life most of the time xx

oh twins? never thought of that ...surely they would have seen remnants inside with the internal scan?

Also, the fact that was only dating at 5+4 when should have been 6+3 doesn't sound hopeful.

I just find it strange that I should have practically stopped bleeding after only 4 days.

This is my 1st miscarriage so i am sort of entering the unknown abit but my doctor advised me that i could bleed for 10-14days and ive read on here a couple of ladies who have bled for many weeks. Obv its strange like me that you started bleeding and then stopped before it started again, i havnt had an answer from anybody ive seen over the last few days as to why this was but have been told that its not uncommon.

I think the idea that it may have been twins could be a logical expliantion. Do twins run in your family? I would have thought that a scan would have picked this up but im no expert and like you say you were very sure of your dates which they've said are now different??

xx

hi misswoowoo sorry you are going through this.

to answer your question, re bleeding slowing down. this did happen to me. with my 3rd mc i had alot of bleeding very large clots and alot of pain. after passing what i assumed was the sac, the bleeding almost stopped and i thought that was that. very light bleeding for next few days, then stopped.

scan 2 weeks later showed alot of 'product' still remaining and i ended up having erpc.

there are so many women on here who have had similar experiences to you and have gone on to have healthy pg's.

look after yourself and good luck for your repeat scan

xx

I know what you mean about feeling fine one minute and breaking down the next, I'm exactly the same and I think its the pain as well as the bleeding being a constant reminder. I've been advised to only take paracetomol which doesn't really help that much....

sorry to hear you are going through a rough time fluffyflowers. Emotionally I am fine now or so it would seem. Very upset over the weekend and monday because we've been trying for about a year on and off, really ready for another (have 2.6 dd) and everything seemed to click with me mentally. But, I've had barely any symptoms so far unlike last time, which made me think maybe something was up. Kept telling myself that if there was something wrong with the baby then it's better to go now than later.

I'm wondering whether my feeling fine about it all now is because the bleeding has practically stopped - perhaps when it starts up again or when I go for the scan on monday and get a confirmation I will feel differently.

I just want it over with so I can get on with trying again.

Ive been told to take paracetamol and ibuprofen alternatly at 2 hour intervals to ease the pain, im not normally worried by pain but i have been in tears on several occasions with this, its not nice.
That's how im feeling at the moment - once the bleeding stops and the cramps ease im hoping i can begin to deal with my emotions (which are all over the place at the moment)
It helps just knowing that im not going through this alone and theres people to listen. hope ur all ok xx

our bodies are strange indeed, you'd think that if the bleeding stopped everything would be gone but I guess not so in every case. It's the waiting isn't it?

At my last scan I really thought everything would be gone as I'd had so much bleeding, but the gestational sac was still there and had grown. It amazes me how all this works. The waiting is like torture...

yes wimwam sunday morning seems like a month ago, monday morning seems like a year away

yup, my next scan on 8th December - that feels like an absolute eternity! x

wimwam how far along were you when you had your last scan and did your dates match up with size of sac etc?

I had a scan yesterday that showed I was 5 weeks although by dates I'm 6 weeks. They've said they can't tell me if I will miscarry or not until 7 week scan although I'm not holding much hope. I never knew this could all be so difficult, I thought getting pregnant was the hard part!!!

The reason I thought twins was because you mentioned passing an embryo. My 10 day wait for confirmation from 2nd scan was hell and so I decided to have my HCG blood tests done. This showed HCG went down and so confirmed MC. I had a few days to come to terms with it before 2nd scan. I started spotting at 9 weeks. 1st scan showed baby as measuring 5-6 weeks. I was certain of dates and so I knew then it was bad news but tried to hope.

sh77 well I thought it was an embryo it had a dark spot in it that looked like an eye and something that looked like the start of a leg, it was very squishy and purply but the nurse did say it was just pregnancy tissue - whatever that is. I suppose I just humanised it - bizarre to think that your mind can make you see something that isn't there.

I think from scanning other threads and what's been said here it's not that unusual for the bleeding to stop relatively quickly only to be told that there's things left behind in the womb that need to break away. I'm thinking that is what's happened in this instance. Don't even want to think about the "glimmer of hope" dates just don't fit!