I've had 3 miscarriages in 3 years. The first one was in January 2008. I found out I was pregnant early December and was fine until New Years eve when I started bleeding. I had a scan 2 days later and everything was fine, howere when I went for my 12 week scan the baby had died a couple of weeks before. I had an EPRC.
The second one was in November 2008. We went to a private scanning clinic and they really messed us around, the first one was on the 29th September and they said they couldn't get a proper reading so could I come back in a couple of weeks but we had to go back twice before they confirmed that the pregnancy had died, we then had to wait a week for an NHS scan to confirm that it had gone wrong so it was the 26th October by then, they decided to let me miscarry naturally but it went very wrong and I ended up very ill in hospital. I wasn't treated particularly compassionately whilst in hospital by some of the staff although some of them were lovely. I ended up losing a lot of blood and having an EPRC, my first time overnight in hospital (I know I've been lucky). The third miscarriage was in April this year. We were given scans by the NHS and it all seemed fine, the baby was alive at 8 weeks but the scan a week later showed it had died.
I managed to get through summer by just trying to forget it and see friends but my husband and I went on holiday to a friends wedding in Denmark for a friends wedding and we got on disastrously and nearly split up and he had a row with my friend who took it out on me, saying that I'd only lost 3 embryos and needed to get a grip on myself, I thought I was doing ok and keeping it together but those comments have made me feel like I've lost control.
I feel like I'm falling apart at the moment, its about now the third baby would have been due and also its the anniversary of the really horrible illness that came with the second miscarriage as it was Halloween when I became ill. I just keep bursting into tears, I'm getting on better with my husband. I'm scared to try again because of the heartache and pain I've been through but I got pregnant and I feel like I can't stop trying yet. I'm 40 but they can't find what the reason for the miscarriage was because there was nothing wrong with the last baby that they could find and there is nothing glaringly wrong with myself or my husband.
I'm really struggling with life at the moment, finding it hard to keep my pecker up
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really struggling all of a sudden 6 months after third miscarriage
Kazzac69 · 26/10/2009 15:12
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