Reassurance needed - I'm clueless

[skihorse]

I'm 35 and was ttc for 8 months before getting 3 BFPs this week. However yesterday I started bleeding quite heavily (with small clots) so I fear this has ended rather abruptly for me.

I just need a virtual hug or two I suppose. I'm 35, this was my first. I have no friends with babies - I live in a foreign country - my parents are shit. My OH is amazing thank god, but I just feel really alone right now. You can read a million things on the internet saying "this is normal", "that's not normal" but sometimes it's just hard to make sense of it all.

How will I know if it's definitely all over? I spoke to my doctor last night and he said if the bleeding continues for 48 hours then it's unlikely to have survived. I have an appointment Tuesday morning (was going for confirmation) - will they run bloods then to confirm it's gone?

I'm so sorry this has happened to you skihorse, it sounds like a chemical pregnancy. My sis had one, she had a positive test then started to bleed, i think it happens when the egg gets fertilized but doesn't implant, so your hormone levels start to rise, hence the positive test. I may be wrong though. Maybe do anther test in the morning, or in a couple of days.

really sorry for what you are going through. very early miscarriages are incredibly common. because pregnancy tests are so sophisticated now, people are finding out they are pregnant much earlier, when previously they would not have know and would have just assumed their period was a few days late...But none of that helps when you've got excited about the pregnancy and have to cope with the disappointment. it's absolutely horrible. keep posting on this board and there will be lots of support from other posters like me who have been through it a few times now.

Thank you kissmummy - I really don't know what the heck is going on right now though. The bleeding has virtually stopped and I've not passed the type of clots I normally would on a period - and I would've expected to pass more. I've also had more "fluttering" feelings inside my uterus (this morning even) - so yes, my body is taunting me!

I'm only 5 weeks (if I am still) and yet I've known from ¬5DPO. sigh

It's so hard to try and figure out what's going on because each and every one of us has a body which reacts differently - even in miscarriage I'm sure.

Thank you kissmummy - I really don't know what the heck is going on right now though. The bleeding has virtually stopped and I've not passed the type of clots I normally would on a period - and I would've expected to pass more. I've also had more "fluttering" feelings inside my uterus (this morning even) - so yes, my body is taunting me!

I'm only 5 weeks (if I am still) and yet I've known from ¬5DPO. sigh

It's so hard to try and figure out what's going on because each and every one of us has a body which reacts differently - even in miscarriage I'm sure.

Oh skihorse you poor thing! I know how you feel I've had 2 m/c's now it's a terribly horrible thing to even suspect that it might be happening to you but I always found one of the worst things is all the waiting we have to go through to find out what's going on! Atleast when you know one way or the other you can begin to get your head sorted and get on with it! I know what you mean about your body taunting you why does it do that it's so unfair! I don't really have any advice just that we all know what your going through so keep posting!! Wishing you the best of luck for Tuesday hunny hope it's the best possible outcome!
Coxy

skihorse - a big clue for me on each mc was bloating - I bloated up like a balloon the day before it happened. My last mc was at 5+5 and there was less bleeding than a normal AF - sometimes your body can reabsorb, so you don't lose as much.

It truly is shit, but it does get better - just give yourself lots of time and don't try to put on a brave face.

hello again everyone.

Well I still don't know what's going on. The bleeding stopped yesterday early evening. I POAS lunchtime and it was positive - I don't know how long the hormones would take to leave the body though.

I'm taking the positives from this in the sense that I now know I can conceive - and also that it seems to be quite normal for women to be super-fertile after an early loss. So no matter what the outcome with the doctor tomorrow, it's all still good.

Even so... a pate & prawn sarnie sound great!