2 miscarriages, now an ectopic any hope?

[MrsFooty]

that's it really.

Does anyone have any positivity for me, really starting to give up hope. The surgeon told me not to stop trying and that people with my case history can go on to have children, but as that was before the surgery, I think that might have been partly cos they needed me to stop crying so they could get me on the bed.

I used to think that a blighted ovum discovered at 12 wks was the cruelest thing mother nature could throw at me boy was I wrong.

I am glad to be alive, as I was bleeding into my abdomen (that's why they took my tube) apparently that could have been fatal. But I just need to know if it's time to give up?

Sorry for the self pitying wallowing, but still recovering as didn't get discharged until nearly midnight - was adamant I wasn't staying overnight.

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[TiaraSparkles]

There is always hope although finding the mental/emotional/physical strength to carry on seems like such a massive task.

I had a beautiful DS born by CS in 2007. In September 2010 I had a missed miscarriage, although I knew the moment the baby had died. It wasn't until October though that I had a D&C. The wait was horrendous.

In March of this year I was again pregnant and had a loss which they thought may have been one of a set of twins (to this day I will never know). I carried on bleeding but my hormone levels kept rising albeit very slowly (@ 7 weeks my levels were 126 when they should have been nearly 90,000).

It quickly transpired that it was due to a tubal (ectopic) pregnancy. I lost my tube in April of this year and it absolutely floored me.

I saw some very dark moments and had it not been for my DS I can honestly say I do not know how I would have gotten through it.

However, I am thrilled to say that I am presently 13w3d pregnant. it's been a tough few weeks to say the least. not least because @ 7+ weeks they suspected another ectopic (my head was fit to explode). An early scan revealed it to be where it should be and the pain attributed to my ovary being squashed up against my uterus. (No doubt from CS and lap and subsequent tube removal).

I've also just had food poisoning for 4 days and I'm trying not to worry. But of course I will.

Always.

Never give up hope. The body is a truly amazing thing.

[Lovefreckle]

Hi, feeling low. Sorry for the wallowing, but I would like to hear about some success stories..I am 38, I have a gorgeous 3 year old little girl and I know.i am blessed to have her. Sadly we lost an angel in Nov (6 months ago now) when I was 10 weeks pregnant, which was traumatic for us both. However, 2 weeks ago I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant and we were so happy especially since our baby would have been born around now if things hadn't gone wrong. However, the day after doing the pregnancy test I started bleeding, I was referred for a scan which I thought would be another miscarriage. Unfortunately, it turns out I now have an ectopic. I had methotrexate on Monday and now I am crampy, sore and down. Still got further HCG bloods to make sure it's working and if not, I will have the tube removed 😞
Am I too old to try again? Scared this will all happen again. I know I have much to be grateful for but I would have liked my baby to have a sibling to grow with. Just feel a failure. Sorry for the self pity!

[moomin11]

I can definitely relate to what you're going through. Am 39 with a 4 year old DD, had 2 mcs before her and an ectopic and now 2 mcs since her. I also had methotrexate for my ectopic and thankfully it worked. Was diagnosed yesterday with mc and it appears to have been twins which has hit me hard. I also keep questioning whether to keep trying. I would have loved to give my DD a sibling but I think you have to balance that with the impact this process has on yourself. Take care

[itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted]

I'm in the same boat - 2 miscarriages in 3 months at the end of 2017 and then an ectopic in January 2018 which ruptured even though they gave me methotrexate - took over a year to get another BFP but that ended in miscarriage last month too.

I also have a DC who is a similar age to yours

We had one failed ivf in January but gearing up to do another transfer next month as was sick of trying naturally with no success and was hoping ivf would screen out any poor quality embryos and because I only have the one tube left

Hopefully your hospital has told you but since you were given methotrexate you must wait 3 months before trying again as it's too dangerous to get pregnant with that in your system x

[BabyPending]

Hi all,

I know this is quite an old thread but posting in the hope some more ladies can give me some reassurance (I have posted on a few threads now!)

I had a ruptured ectopic last week and lost my left tube, this was following 2 MC so it wasn't third time lucky for us :( I am just heart broken and petrified of what the future holds. The success stories I'm reading do help though and I hope to see more xx