blighted ovum, does any one know the earliest that this can be diagnosed?

[deanychip]

How many weeks on a TV scan?

I have googled it and cant find how many weeks at the earliest.

Evening Deanychip,

How was your day today? How have you been feeling? Has anything started to happen yet? I suppose it could be a long wait. It's a difficult decision to make isn't it. I think natural is definitely best, if it happens within a certain amount of time. I was k=just desperate to be back to normal after my second, and don't know if I could have waited.

Your time at the beach sounds lovely. I really admire how positive you're being about it all.

Your poor little boy with chicken pox too. Get well soon. I know what you mean about the smell of calamine- I love that smell and the reminders of childhood associated with it.

So I managed to be very busy today, and distract myself from thinking about the scan that could have been. The jabby pains have been very minimal today though so it's been ok. Like you say, it could easily be stretching pains etc, but it's so hard to be positive now. It didn't feel like anything bad though - just weird. I don't think I'll bother ringing the Dr again - I am trying to just think 'whatever will be, will be' and wait till the scan.

Anyway - hope you're doing okay.

Have a lovely evening,

HYH

Hello,
Nothing yet, no bleeding, no pain. But boobs have stopped hurting now so think hormones are reducing.

Chicken pox are better too, although he is back at school tomorrow and im not sure if they will allow him back, i dont know what stage they let them back?????

I cant say that i am looking forward to next week, but i feel like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders actually.
The pressure and the stress was so heavy. Now that i know either way i feel better, and like i can look ahead. Do you see what i mean?

Any way, better get organised for the week now, please let me know when you have got your scan date, i am excited for you

How are you today HYH?
Have the pains settled down now?
How are you feeling in general?

Hope that you are ok,
Deany x

Hi Deanychip,

Thanks for your messgaes, I do like our little chats .

I'm good thanks. I've been making sure I'm very, very busy, to stop myself from thinking too much. Only 1 more day to go until The Dr sorts out my scan, so it could be on wed or fri (they don't do them on Thursdays.) I'm excited but obviously incredibly nervous. If it's another miscarriage I don't know if I'll be able to cope.

On the positive side, I am actually feeling quite optimistic now about this one. All pains, etc have gone. I've been sick as a dog all day today, and it's been increasing over the last week. I just 'feel' like it's mpre right this time somehow. I have been ravenously hungry and annoying about what exactly I want to eat, which happened in my first (succesful) pregnancy.

Arghhhh it's so hard isn't it. I didn't want to get too hopeful, but it's nearly 7 weeks, and there's been no signs of anything wrong, and lots of good signs. Bodies (mine in particular) can be very deceiving though, so who knows?

How are you doing? Are you still holding out for things to happen naturally. I hope you're doing okay.

It's been gorgeous weather here today, I hope it continues tomorrow. Did you find out if school woll have your son back, or is he going to be having a bit of time off post the pox?

HYH

Ds back at school, i was quite sad and didnt want the holidays to end because we have had such lovely days out together. Gorgeous here again today.

Ive kept busy as far as possible today...head inside my oven scrubbing it like someone demented!
Difinitive scan tomorow morning.

All symptoms have now gone, and i dont feel pregnant at all now. But still no bleeding nor pain. It will come any day now, i have no doubt at all.

Want to see the consultant tomorow no matter what. I will have to go up to the hospital anyway to pick up my assisted abortion medication....how VILE is that description so could pop in at anytime to have a quick consultation with him.

Maybe he can tell me why i have had 4 miscarriages, 3 of which are blighted ovums, there must be some explanation.

OOOOH you sound SO preggers, how absolutely fantastic for you, i am thrilled for evry last vomit that you report to me!!!!!
hehehehehe
Kep busy keep busy, think positve and jsut think that b the end of the week, you will see your little baked bean in there.

Keep me posted on sickness n stuff.

Thinking of you with every thing crossed, you are indeed a shining light and i so look forward to hearing from you.
Take care
Deany x

Hi deanychip,

How did it go for you today? Did you get to see the consultant? Could they shed any light as why the repeated blighted ovum's? Or what you might do differently next time? Are they going to run tests etc now? (Did they run lots of tests after your third?)

Anyway - I hope it went okay for you, and that you might have got some answers. Did they give you the first part of the tablet thing? (Horrid name I agree...) I hope you're doing okay. It's lovely weather for a week off work!

I'm okay thanks. Feeling nervous about a possible scan tomorrow. When I have it I know I will be absolutely, comletely terrified. I am so scared even just thikning about it, as one little scan determines how my ;life is going to pan out in such a major way. And obviously having had 2 very bad scans in the past, I am so so scared of looking at the screen and seeing the same again. Blurgh. I can't even bear to think about what I'll do if it's bad again. I can't imagine it a third time, I think I'll lose the plot.

Hmmmmmm. let's hope it doesn't come to that...

Although - (sorry to keep going on), I don't know how I can even really be present in the room . I don;t know if closing my eyes will help, or actuually looking myslef. I feel sick just thikning about it.

Anyway, I hpe you're doing okay, and sorry to go on...

HYH xxx

ps not as sick today. Boo hiss stupid symptoms!

Ps sorry about appaling typing

Hello,
I know what you mean about not knowing what to do during the scan, not wanting to look at the screen.
I fixated on a spot on the ceiling! Didnt take my eyes off it, and concentrated on breathing long slow breaths. Didnt ask any questions just lay silently, breathing.

Didnt get to see consultant as he is on leave BUT they have booked me in for next Tuesday. They did say that actualy, he may not be able to tell me anything at all. Which is fine, but i need to pose the questions and send him off researching for me with all of his gynea pals, one of them may know. (do you think that they have a chat room like this entitled cervicalnet or gynynet?!)

So ive got to get my pills tomorrow then go in on Friday for the pessery, will be home the same day all bieng well.
I have asked for next week off sick from work, becuase it took me quite some time to physically recover last time. I was very briused and sore, weak and dizzy for a few days afterwards. Work were great. I have only had 1 day off sick and that was 3 years ago, so i dont make a habit of it!

I HAVE DECIDED TO MAKE STAND.
I am going to throw away my current bottle of folic acid tablets and buy a brand new box which i aim to start to take from next Monday.
I will join weight watches again and get to a healthy BMI.
I will continue with the decaf coffee and will not touch alcohol.
I will be as healthy and fit as i can be for my next great pregnancy adventure, and it all starts next Monday.

Fresh start, brand new everything. I aim to get lots of good sound information and advice from the consultant next week.
I aim to jump on my husband at regular intervals during the month.
I refuse to buy any Hpks until June....i may buy one but only on the 1st of June.

There is little point in the mean time, it only becomes obsessional and that will spoil my plans to be carefree and summery and relaxed and stuff.

For you, i hope great hugeness comes your way, i hope for piles and heartburn for constipation and nausea to blight you till you are 12 weeks. I hope for a bouncing baby on that screen, and on a litte picture that you will carry in your handbag and want to show every pasing stranger in the street because you are utterly bursting with excitement and pride.
I want grumpiness because you cant fit into any clothes and there is a foot perminantly wedged in your upper ribs.
I want all of this for you, becuase you are doing it for us both...therefore you should have a double helping of it all
Please please please let me know how you get on wih your scan, i am holding my breath and wont be able to breath again until i know your scan news!
Take extra care, think nice positive thoughts and keep in touch
Deany x

any news?

Hi Deanychip,

Thanks for the messages, it's nice to know someones thinking about us... noone else in 'real life' knows anything at all... so it's lovely to be able to tell someone the GOOD NEWS!!!!!!!!

A little heartbeat, flickering away, right on the screen! I burst into tears and howled for a bit! I was NOT expecting that! I am so amazingly happy. it doesn't feel real. I'd started to believe it wasn't going to happen!

It wasn't an easy day though. I was out this morningm but the Dr rang and my husband spoke to her. She was unable to get us a scan. The gynae unit would not see me unless I'd been bleeding. She sort of implied to my husband that if I rang her back and said I'd been bleeding they'd boook me straight in, but I couldn't do it. I felt if I even said those words it might happen. So -instead (afetr having a minor emotional breakdown) I started to ring private sonographers. I found one not too far away, and as luck would have it they could book us in this avo, and not too expensive at all.

The sonograpgher says I have an enoromous cyct on my ovary (apparently you always get them in pregnancy, but mine is rather large!) that has prob been causing the weird pains. It shouldn't be a problem as apparently they tend to dissapear at 12 weeks when the placenta takes over. Also am measuring 6wks 2 days not 6 weeks 6 as I thought, but trying not to think about those things. There was a baby in there with a heartbeat!!

I hope you don't mind me writing this. I really appreciate being able to share it with you. I hope that you're doing okay. How was your day?

HYH

After my last MMC I did exactly what you said in your e-mail - had a completely fresh start. I chucked out old folic aci, and bought (probably a ruip off but didn't care) the pre-conception pregnancare (which I have religiously taken ever since). I also have only drink decaf tea and coffee since. I did have the odd drink until getting pregnant agai, but did try and become healthier. I didn't diet, but instead made sure I made a different weekly shopping list and cooked proper meals every night. I also turned our house upside down sorting / cleaning, as this was highly theraputic.

I also banned myself from googling and mumsnet for 2 months to stop obsessing (and did it - although it was hard!)

Anyway - I think it's a good idea of yours, and it helped me, mentally, get to a better place.

I hope it went okay taking the tablets today. I saw your other post about pinkillers. I hope it's not too bad for you.

I must ban myself from googling again as just been googling the ovarian syst. Nice!

WONDERFUL FANTASTIC NEWS!
I am thrilled for you

made my day in fact!

Hi Deanychip,

Sorry i've not been in touch - been away all weekend.

How are you? Are you back at work this week, or have you taken more time off? I hope you're doing okay.

Big Hugs

PS - had a name change as my last one was to do with the Grand national - a little out of date now!

Hi,
nice name!!
OOh how lovely, did you go somewhere nice for the weekend?
DONT ASK!!!!!you will wish you hadnt..here is my sorry tale:
Ive been in allot of pain, had to stay in overnight because i needed morphine and was on gas and air till the early hours.

They have given me co codamol which completely spaces me out and makes me off the planet but its the only thing that will take the pain away.

was feeling very sorry for myself i am afraid, have not had much support from family or friends in rl. Think that they jsut dont know what to say so have kept away.
Doesnt help when im trying to look after a 5 year old, and i am in pain, and unable to take the only painkillers that work because i cant drive or function when i have taken them.

In the end, my very good friend took him for a couple of hours, bless her. Think she could see i was in a mess.

I do think that ia m fully entitled to one day of feeling sorry for myself!

Hoping to be in less pain from now on. dont remember bieng in this much pain before.

saw consultant!!!
he wants me to have bloods taken in 6-8 weeks, after that, there isnt anything that they can do to help me.

So here i am in pain, fed up and none the wiser.

BUT then there is a new week next week, so back to normal, back to work, and back to baby making

tell me about you, how are you feeling, have you got a 12 week scan booked, are you still being sicky?? Tell me very detail!!!

That was worth the journey then!!!

Hi Deanychip,

I'm so so sorry to hear what you've been going through, you poor thing. You have every right to feel sorry for yourself. You've been through a lot, and it's not a pleasant experience! make sure you take it as easy as you can (although like you say, not easy with a 5 year old!) I hope that you're in less pain today. Poor, poor you. It's such a tough thing to go through emotionally and physically.

Glad you're sounding positive about next week though, and back to baby making. That thought got me through the times I found toughest - that we could always try again and maybe next time....

I am doing good thanks. Well - today I am anyway. I had some browny horrid discharge this week (sorry if TMI) and panicked. I managed to get a scan today, and all is good. Just old blood or something they can't say what. Anyway - all is good in there - the little baba has grown quite a bit in a week, and is now much closer to my original dates which is good. Also my enormous cyst has shrunk and is looking more normal. The Dr said it all looks absolutely fine and I just need to relax. Easir said than done, b8t I am seriously going to try now, otherwise I will never enjoy this pregnancy, and I want to enjoy iy. So this evening I read my baby book for the first time, put on some tummy butter, and listed to some relaxing music. I want to just think, Hey, I'm pregnantt, rather than worrying the entire time!

Anyway - sorry to go on...

I hope you're doing okay. Thinking of you,

HYHx (OLSF)

Oh no, i would be the same, i would be beside myself with panic if i had even a tiny discharge.
Im so glad everything is ok, and how reasuring to be able to see your baby growing and thriving via a scan.
Deep breaths and relax, the Dr is right, you need to be calm.
Let some happy thoughts in, including your plans for the future with your "children"..OMG you will be the mother of CHILDREN!! You will have to start to say to people "my kids". How funny is that!!!
AHhhhhh, a brand new tiny one with little toes and everything.

So when do you plan on telling your family, are you like me, and when you have that 12 week scan picture clutched in your hand, you can consider telling close family first???

Its CRAZY but i am sat here with a huge silly grin on my face while typing all of this to you! I am so happy for you

i was reading this thread between deanychip and holdyourhorses/onelittlespeckledfreind with tears in my eyes.

I suffered a delayed miscarriage at 13weeks, only to find out at my scan that there wad no heart beat and most probably my embryo died at 5weeks. I went home to miscarry naturally which happened in one night. Its been 3 days and I'm still passing clots. A blighted ovum is what they called it. Im 37, recently got married, and devastated, especially so, since i had 2 previous terminations as a teenager/uni student. Its seems as though I'm being punished. I don't have time on my hands, and with a fibroid they found outside my uteris, I'm not sure what the future holds.
If either of you are still on here, did you have any more babies?

I know it’s been years but my heart goes out to you @suzumum 🌺🌺