Voiice, my heart goes out to you. The same happened to me in January, 17weeks, all fine but just couldn't find a heartbeat at my routine midwife appt.
Long post....apologies
10 weeks on i'm still searching for answers and am up to reason 101 why it could have happened. Even though it is so so so hard remember nothing you did caused this to happen. It took me 3 counselling sessions to get my head around that, although i still have totally irrational days where i blame myself.....easier to cope with i guess.
We're still awaiting our post mortem results but GP and counsellor have prepared us that they may well find no cause. I always took things for granted and it has made me so aware just how amazing it is that we ever even get pregnant, yet alone carry a baby to term.
Take time, don't rush back to work. These things happen but you just never think it'll happen to you. Like others have said SANDS is good and i was never ever one for counselling but the hosp offered it to me and basically i decided it couldn't make me feel worse. I found it draining and essentially just blubbed through the sessions but looking back it's definitely helped. Just an hour where i don't have to be brave
I found it really hard everyone i told, then said they knew someone who'd had a miscarriage. this didn't help as once you're past that magical 13 weeks, 2nd trimester loss just seems so different to me.
Take care
x