Hi pippa and kross.
Sorry you both have possible Ashermans. It is an upsetting thing to have, but it is treatable - usually completely successy fully as long as you can find someone experienced.
The best thing to do, if you can, is check his/her experience in this condition - how many cases he has treated, how frequently he performs surgery, success of outcome. Also, what kind of treatment he proposes for you. Best way is a hysteroscopy, using microscissors to remove the adhesions. This is skilled surgery, so your best chance is with someone who has good experience.
There is a consultant on NHS at Hammersmith hospital, Dr Trew, who is very experienced and has an excellent record. He is the only NHS one I know of, but there are other, private ones. I don't know how easy it would be to get referred to the Hammersmith (I wasn't able to be).
Please try not to worry too much - it is devastating when you initially find out, but there is definitely light at the end of the tunnel. I had big problems for a few years but now have a 2 year old ds and another dc due in October.
Kross, have you got any further appointments/consultations coming up? When you were diagnosed with the adhesions, what treatment were you given for these, or do you have some coming up? If you were left untreated, go back to your GP or hospital directly and ask what is happening.
Have either of you checked out the Ashermans support group online? website here There is a great UK group you can join.
Good luck to both of you.