how long did any of you take off work after mc?

[gigglewitch]

I know it's an individual thing. Have just started getting over the worst of the physical effects (11 days on) but all of a sudden the "i've lost a baby" thing seems to have hit me - erm as if i hadn't realised that before
Am signed off til middle of next week anyway, and am 'seriously' anaemic, whatever that is supposed to mean. Still feel like shit anyway.

Suppose i should have namechanged. ah well who cares.

mine happened a week before christmas and as was natural it took about a week nearly in and of itself.
Then had another 2 weeks but that was the christmas holidays. Then ack at work. that was a bad bad bad week.

I kept telling myself that i was fine but i wasn't. self-diagnosed anaemia but actually didn't mind that. like the others say it's the hormones that screw you over the most.

None. But it was very very early/chemical pregnancy and I geuinely didn't feel I needed any time off. I would have taken time off without feeling an iota of guilt if I had needed to.

daynee count me in

I think we're a bunch of workaholics if the truth be told...

hey hun, me again told you i wouldnt be going anywhere! i had about a month off, start to finish....in hospital about 10 times in total. But after d&c i had just a week off, doctor recommended a month. To be honest i just want to get back to feeling normal whatever that is! About a month later needed a few more days off as it hit me, good luck and take it easy for a while x

thanks barbie

I had a week off in total (scan Monday, ERPC Tuesday, rest of week off).

I felt a bit high that week in retrospect, and felt a bit of a fraud, but was thankful for the peace and quiet of home and the rest. I went back on the Monday, and the next 2 weeks were when the hormones really kicked in and I really could have done with being elsewhere.

But as a teacher you feel that if you can physically stand up and talk, you should be in front of a class.....

Sorry to hear of your loss - i had about 10 days off with both mine and also worked v part time at the time - i considered going back in about the 5th day after but then the sun came out and i thought feck it and let the sun cheer me up as i rested in the garden. Be kind on yourself

I had about 2 weeks off but went back way before I was ready as I had responsiblities which no-one else could deal with. However, work were amazing and allowed me to sit and surf the web for support, only coming up for air when I was needed. I guess, in hindsight, it was good not to be alone at home as DH went back to work quite early as it was the right thing for him to do.

So sorry to hear you situation. I wish it would never happen to any family.

Giggle I've got a really responsible job too, managing people and I'm a sister in an A&E department which is pretty stressful. I self certified for the 1st week (between my scan and the ERPC) then got a 2 week sick note from the GP. That runs out on Monday, I'm in no emotional state to go back and physically I'm really tired, still bleeding slightly and still going dizzy.

I've worked there for 8 years and have had no sick time so I refuse to feel guilty, they can manage without me.

If work will let you you should take your time.

3 weeks off and 3 weeks part-time being very gentle on myself. Lovely boss helped a lot and made sure nobody hassled me. I really needed that time - I was feeling very postnatal.

I feel better reading these posts that I'm not such a fraud. I have self-certified for 1 week after missing one and a half days when miscarriage started at work and I was sent home. I've now got a dr's note for one more week and have to ring work tomorrow morning. I'm terrified cos they're re-structuring soon at work and I don't think they'll understand this amount of time but I can't face going back in. My hormones are so up and down.

I am 6 six pregnant with my 2nd child. Up to.now I have felt completely normal apart from headaches and tender breasts. On Thursday last week I started spotting however the bleeding has got worse since then. I don't know what to do or think. Any advise?

Hello, Iv had 2 miscarriages and been TTC for 20 months. I was just about to start IVF when I found Out I was pregnant. I work in a job when I am on my feet all day, in patient contact, heavy lifting ect and I am worried about how this could effect my pregnancy. I’m only 5 weeks pregnant, but my anxiety is through the roof, I’m crying a lot and every time I go to the toilet I’m sure I’m going to be bleeding. I rarely take time off sick but I’m wondering if the doctors might sign me off for a couple of weeks while baby grows and settles in. Has anyone else been signed off due to previous miscarriages??

I'm wfh part time at the moment and that was a huge relief for me. It was a terrible thing to happen but I guess the timing was advantageous. I started to miscarry on the Weds afternoon (my last day in for the week) and then I went back to work on Monday. I knew I didn't have to face anyone or let on what was happening to me, so it was just a matter of emails and other bits I had to do as normal. That said, when it came to a team meeting a couple of days later, I sort of collapsed at the idea of having to encounter anyone, even over Zoom, and cried off with a migraine. I also passed another gig I had to someone else, who was thankfully happy for the extra cash. I haven't told anyone at work. I didn't want to let the cat out of the bag that I was ttc. Haven't told friends or family either. I just want to be able to give good news before I explain the bad thing, and I'm still hopeful.

@Snave91

Hello, Iv had 2 miscarriages and been TTC for 20 months. I was just about to start IVF when I found Out I was pregnant. I work in a job when I am on my feet all day, in patient contact, heavy lifting ect and I am worried about how this could effect my pregnancy. I’m only 5 weeks pregnant, but my anxiety is through the roof, I’m crying a lot and every time I go to the toilet I’m sure I’m going to be bleeding. I rarely take time off sick but I’m wondering if the doctors might sign me off for a couple of weeks while baby grows and settles in. Has anyone else been signed off due to previous miscarriages??

Hi @Snave91. I'm so sorry to hear of your previous losses and that you're struggling during this pregnancy. Anxiety is awful and a new pregnancy after loss and a while ttc again must be such a stressful time. My heart goes out to you.

Perhaps you can speak with your gp / EPU about some time off and also some resources to help you manage the worst effects? Just incase you find yourself getting anxious when you return to work after sick leave, it's probably a good idea to find some coping strategies that'll see you through. Counselling might be a good idea to help you get back on an even keel.

I think it's also worth discussing the situation with your boss. Maybe ask whether you can step back from some of the more risky aspects of the job? There are likely health and safety rules around the types of heavy lifting you can do, for instance. It might make you feel a lot better about being at work, knowing that you have your employer's support to prioritise your health and pregnancy.

I’ll have had 4 weeks off. The first week was after we found out the baby’s heartbeat had stopped at 9.5 weeks and had to wait a week for confirmation. The next two weeks were after 2 rounds of medical management and a late night trip to emergency and overnight stay due to excessive bleeding and the final week was after the ERPC.

I honestly needed it all. It was such a traumatic time both physically and mentally